How do mom's "always know"

arfff
mine probably knew something different but she cant figure out what is...
OR
she knew but in denial

if she really believe that i am "not straight" and tell dad means i'll be in the morgue or sleeping below the ground surface on the backyard instead of typing this post

 

it depends on the mum. and the child.

 

too many moms don't want to know, because they figure that if they just don't see it then it won't be there. but I'm encouraged by how many people's moms not only knew but were accepting and supportive

 

My mom didn't know and neither did I. Now she is just in denial.

 

I don't think either of my parents know, but now that I think about it there were definitely some pre-homosexual signs in my past.

 

My mom and dad had no idea.

 

I came out and she still "doesn't know".

 

I always felt like my mom knows, but then she is always saying we need to find you a girlfriend. I don't know if she is trying to mess with me though. I change the subject oh so quickly after that.

Even when I talk about a friend who is a girl, my mom is always like oh who is that. It annoys the crap outta me...

 

My mom knew since I was 3.

 

Mine in her own way detected before i knew though she understands homosexuality among women as being overly close friends and no more (lol)

 

My mom has been asking me every few months since I was about 10 if I liked boys or girls. In the last year or so it's turned into straight up asking me if I'm gay and mentioning that she would still love me and stuff. The biggest spike in the frequency of these conversations was when I cut my hair short (stereotypes, man).

Despite all of this, she was SHOCKED when I came out.

 

I knew. I don't know how I did though. From when my son was around 10 I just suspected. He isn't your stereotypical gay boy that you see on TV either. His news has also shocked many others including his father. I just put it down to mums intuition. I started dropping hints and openly voice my support on any and all LGBT stuff. He is now 15 and only recently come out to the family.

 

I remember once when I was 16 my mom casually said, "I wouldn't care if you were a lesbian." Back then I knew I liked both genders tho I hadn't really come to terms with it and was YEARS away from telling anyone.

THen last year I was showing her pics of me and a girl I met that year. We were/still are just friends. She looked at me and said (with some judgment I think), "Are you a lesbian!?" I was so shocked at this that I just laughed and quickly said, "God, no!"

So when I came out to her this year as bi I thought for sure she had an idea that I was queer. But when I told her she was shocked and totally taken aback! Which ended up shocking me, lol!

So, your mom might see the queerness in you but I can tell you that mine was clueless, even when I was 'sure' she was in the know.

Good luck telling your mom! I'm sure things will work out completely fine.

 

I got a call from my mum on December 23rd. She said that she's be fine if I came out to her as transgender.

 

I was talking with my cousin last night, and apparently my mom knows something. What exactly we're not certain of, but apparently she wants me to come out just as much as I'm afraid of actually doing it. I wonder how she's going to react to finding out she has a daughter...

 

My mom "didn't know".

In fact she's the most hostile response I've gotten from anyone I've come out to...

 

Some/many women like to play the "intuition" card. There is something to intuition, surely. However, I believe ta big piece is that they feel empowered. Sort of like getting your palm read (by a woman):

"A person from North Carolina is going to come into your life"
"Things are about to get better for you"

 

I came out to my mother a while ago, and I don't think she knew at all. When I came out she told me that I was 'just going through a phase' but she said that after the 'phase' if I was 'still gay' she'd be perfectly fine with it... so I gave her some time, told her and then she said "are you really sure..?" and I said "yes" then we just dropped the conversation.

So I'm pretty sure she didn't know, and now is probably in denial about it.

 

My Mom once said to me, "I bet if you could marry ______ (your best gal friend), you
would." I said, "Yes, I think I would." I felt she understood somehow.

 

I thought for sure that my mom would have already known when I came out to her, but she was as shocked as could be and told me she didn't see it coming at all.

She would always tell me it's alright if you're gay growing up, and because of my lack of boyfriends her and my sister would always joke around and say "are you sure you aren't a lesbian?" Well, I eventually stopped denying them when they asked this and because of all of their comments I thought for sure that my mom knew, but she was blown away when I finally got the courage to come out to her.