How can people hook-up?

I know this wasn't directed towards me specifically, but I thought I'd explain myself nonetheless.

I don't mean to make it sound as though I'm trying to put myself on the "moral highground", though I can see how what I said came off that way, which I feared.

For me, it's just a personal dilemma. I understand people hooking up, because let's face it, no matter what the situation is, hormones are hormones and sex is sex, it feels good! And having hooked up in the past, immediately after I felt nothing but guilt because I couldn't justify it to myself intimately. Incidentally, I had just told someone how sex was extremely personal and meaningful to me, but then I just hooked up with someone for kicks and said it was meaningless. I was bothered by my blatant hypocrisy. The only way I can think to describe what I feel after a hook up is that I just placed another discount sticker on something with a lot of sentimental value. It may be just sex to most people, but to me it was more than that.

I'm not looking at other people and saying "YOU SHOULDN'T DO THAT, SKANK!" because I get it, when you've got that itch, you just want it scratched; been there, done that. It's strictly an inner struggle, but it's also only the moral aspect of it, which as I said before isn't necessarily the predominant part of it for me. It's mostly a trust thing. I just can't trust someone I'm barely acquainted with to show them any vulnerability. I'd hook up with someone I knew fairly well before I hooked up with a stranger.

On a side-note: Does it count as a hook up when it's with an ex, and you sort of have an "agreement"?

 

If the 'agreement' is "Wow I need that now go home." Yea thats a hookup

 

not going to lie I have got off with people nothing romantic just sex it's how I lost my cherry not all that proud of it turning out like that just one of them things.

 

^ had nothing to do with alcohol or my mood at the time ^

 

I've done one night stands and friends with benefits, wasn't any good really

 

They were ok, and were B grade friends, had we worked or gone to school together, and I periodically did outside things with them, but they were nothing like my A grade friends. I didn't like that, of these experiences, the first smoked a lot of pot and the second smoked some pot and had some issues with alcohol ... and being confrontational with people. I can do that, too, but he needed to do that more often.

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Yes, I agree. That idea is probably a side effect of organized religion. It changes your psyche, somewhat, but it doesn't kick a person down a notch as far as being upstanding goes.

 

Let see... I was raised in a Catholic family, therefore i was raised in the idea of preserving virginity for marriage, i was ok with that, i wanted to do that. Actually i even defended my position against the people who used to make my life impossible in highschool... But time passed, the sexual desires acummulated, until i got a sexual explosion with made question my faith, because i couldnt understand how sex outside marriage could be bad, this finally resulted in me keeping my faith in God but no religion...

So basically, my desire to hook up was enought to make me question my beliefs...

Im still virgin, but only because im socially awkard and shy, and it is frustrating... Actually i have more problem with my lack of phisical intimacy than with my lack of romantic relationships, my romantic attitude is patient and relax, i know i willmfind someone one day and all that...but my sexuall attitude.... Is more impatient, like a hunger, i want to feel a body in contact with my body and feel good, while making the woman feel good... So im very passionate about phisical intimacy, i want it right now..

That is a good explanation on how people can hook up and why they do it... Just like there is homosexual, bisexual and heterosexual, there is also asexual, sexual and hipersexuals... Or romantic, aromantic , hiper romantic...And it seems like the people who are more willing to wait regarding sex, are more impatient toward love, while people who are patient with love are impatient with sex.