Um I’m 15 years old and I really just want a boyfriend. I’ve had a lot of girlfriends and I’m just tired ya know? I just want to be the one that’s is being unconditional loved instead of me doing all the work. I just wanna be the “bottom” in the relashionship if you will.
Hi Benjamin, and welcome to EC! Give yourself time; you're still young, and where love is concerned, your possibilities are nearly endless. I'm sure you'll find the right guy/person to give to you as much as they receive.
I’m older than fifteen so tell me if it is strange I thought of karate with subject line. Son, going to just use Michael, was trained to use that phrase to focus in karate. Enough of me. I have a couple of concerns, but I think it is more youth that causes it than anything. 1) Regardless of relationship it is *both* who must work on it. 2) Unconditional love is what we all want. Is it fair you expect it, but don’t appear to plan on giving it? 3) If you are “tired” the best gift you can give future partner is time. Why not take rest? It is better for you, you partner and the health of relationship if you do not bounce right in. Take time now and everything will flow so much more easily. “You are young and life is long” 4) Focus first, always, on friendship!! I am here for support. There are so, so many who have practical experiences to share. Guidance from them is golden. If you need an ear to listen I am quite happy to do that for you. ((momhugs)
Hi @Benjamin G and welcome to EC. Regardless of the genders of the two people in a relationship, both should be putting in some effort (doing some work) and showing the other person that they are valued. You’re young and you have plenty of time to find a relationship that makes you filled valued. I’m sorry that you haven’t felt this in your previous relationships. I hope that you find the support you’re looking for here and enjoy being a part of our community.
Benjamin G.....Hello and a very big welcome to Empty Closets! This isn't a website to find a boyfriend (or girlfriend), but it is a place to find people to share with. There are many folks here who will be willing to support you by answering questions and sometimes just being there to listen when you need to vent. You can also check out all of the different sub-forums and when you find something that interests you, then you can join the "conversation". We're glad that you have found us here on EC! .....David :gay_pride:flag:
Welcome to the community! EC is a supportive and safe space to ask questions and find some answers. You will likely find that some members have struggled with similar things and would be willing to share their experiences in moving forward.
