Typing this I feel a lot of stress and uncertainty, I know right? What a great way to start of an introduction I'm in my 20s and about two years ago I started having certain thoughts, and feelings maybe, about some men. For the last few months I have been trying to better my life in a lot of ways, this topic has been on my mind ever since and I start to feel more stressed about it daily. I love a girl and have been attracted to woman ever since I can remember, however two years ago I thought a male friend of mine looked cute... This scared the living **** out of me, I started avoiding him but I started to have fantasies and began to look at stuff online.... I feel so bad about this, like it's I'm cheating on my gf just thinking about it, I also feel guilty for that friend, we do chat like once a month to each other. I have always been very sober about sexuality "You should be able to love and "like" whoever you want" I always said, but now all of a sudden it is all becoming a lot more complicated. For some reason I feel filthy, like I'm just some pervert, I'm so scared of even thinking about this kind of stuff. I hope I can relate to some things on this forums and maybe get some advice/support, thanks for reading
Hypnotoad.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent!) when that becomes necessary! *****There are 18 different sub-forums here that you can check out and join in the conversations or start your own thread/conversation. When I first joined Empty Closets I was in need of a lot of support and encouragement and I found it here…EC is a safe place. I hope that you'll find good things here too! Folks here will talk to you and share...you don't have to be afraid of asking questions...we're glad to have you! Empty Closets is all about making connections and giving LGBT folks a voice when they otherwise don't have one in their day-to-day lives. In particular you may want to check out the forum that is titled "Sexual Orientation”, there are people there who have dealt with some of the same kind of issues that could be challenging you. For some people sexuality can be a bit fluid. It's not terribly unusual for someone to find that their sexual orientation has changed a bit over time. There's absolutely no reason at all to "feel filthy, like I'm just some pervert,". This kind of thing can happen and there is nothing at all wrong with it. Of course it's up to you what you do with it. Merely thinking about men is certainly not actually cheating on your GF. Going out and having an actual hookup while you're still involved with your GF would be cheating. Some info on how to navigate EC: When you have made at least 10 posts on various threads you will be able to post messages on a member's Profile Page. Just click on a member's Avatar Picture and then click on "Profile Page" in the dialogue box that pops up. You'll then be on their Profile Page and there will be a box that says: "Write Something" When you have been on EC for a few weeks and have made at least 50 posts on various forums, you can apply for Full Membership. A Full Member can send Private Messages (PM) to other Full Members and share personal contact info. Right now you can only send a PM to a Staff Member as that is always possible. Here is a quote from the Full Membership information forum: *****To be eligible you must be a member of Empty Closets for a minimum of two weeks, and have a minimum of 50 posts. These posts must be across numerous forums (Fun & Games does not contribute to post count), and consistently posted across a minimum of two weeks. You wouldn't be eligible, for example, if you registered, had no activity for two weeks, and then returned to post 50 times on your 14th day of membership. *****Well, as I said, we're very glad you found us! If you have any questions at all, you can always send me a Private Message. .....David
Hypnotoad welcome to EC. you’ve taken a big step connecting to this site. You will find folks here in the same boat with the same fears. I came here wondering and confused and this group helped me move into the truth about myself with support and caring. We’re here for you as your search for your answers and your truth.
