Okay, so, this is a rather different and less intense thread for me if you have ever read any of my others but long story short I am embarrassed by my daddy kink. Although I know it is only a stereotype and not necessarily true, I do not actually have daddy issues, I have a great relationship with my dad, so it's not that deep. My 'kink' doesn't go as far the whole daddy/little girl thing either, I literally just like the idea of calling a male partner daddy in sexual situations, simple as that. I feel so silly even writing this but basically feel generally embarrassed by this turn on, it is so stigmatised as creepy and wrong, and so I don't know how I'd bring this up with a partner (whether my relationship with them is casual or serious) without scaring them off or being laughed at. Do I talk to them about it first or just say it in the moment? Help!
Talking to them about it first would make things less awkward the first time you do it. When I thought I was straight still I hooked up with a girl one time who randomly started calling me 'Sensei' in the middle of sex...like...the old man karate instructor from movies type of Sensei. It was really weird and unexpected....I'm not old...or even Asian.... I guess she had some fetish of sleeping with a martial arts instructor and just randomly decided to pop that out on me.
Hahaha, I very much appreciate your response, your whole 'sensei' calling experience really put in perspective for me how startling it would be for something to suddenly call you something you weren't entirely comfortable with so I think casually discussing before hand would be best. Thank you so much for your help!
For what it's worth, reading a certain other public forum (the one that has zillions of sub-forums), you learn that this is one of the most common kinks. In fact, it hardly even qualifies as one... based on the truly, er, disturbing kinks and fetishes. Nonetheless, it does sound like a bit of pre-discussion would be a good idea.
I read lots of other stuff about guys calling others daddy regardless of their age. Not sure its a kink if its not used in the "dad" context. I'd suggest you just casually bring it up so its not awkward during sex.
Isn't a sensei someone who is wise, teacher, knows what they're doing? Maybe she was complimenting you on technique.
Is it possible that when I’m called an incompetent loser that’s it’s a term of endearment? What are the odds.
Sorry for the late response, I don’t come on here as regularly as I should but you’ve all made me laugh and put me at ease. I suppose I knew that it isn’t really that kinky hence why I used quotation marks but for some reason even some of the wilder stuff I’m into doesn’t embarrass me as much as this? Anyway, it is not such an issue for me anymore and I thank you all for your advice and taking the time to respond! Hope you’re doing well.
