Help Satisfying Horniness

Ya, Spencer's stuff is junk, and overpriced junk at that. You aren't going to find anything of lasting quality there, and definitely not at a reasonable price.

This sounds like an excellent idea.

If counselors were bound to report every illegal thing they heard, they wouldn't have time to do anything else. Having just this evening come from a 3 hour presentation on counselor ethics, this is fresh in my mind. So a counselor is bound by confidentiality, except with a handful of exclusions, basically the ones I mentioned above, and a few other obscure ones (disclosure of information to insurance companies; law enforcement under circumstances where someone is at risk; and, if a minor and his/her parent have specifically been made aware in advance of the minor's disclosure, or otherwise agreed, then in that circumstance, a parent can be told. You admitting to having sex, camming, masturbating with a toy, etc. would not qualify as putting you at imminent risk warranting disclosure or triggering the therapist's mandatory confidentiality rules, and s/he could lose licensure over a violation of this.

Don't be so sure she doesn't know the towel is there. She may simply be choosing not to bring it up out of respect or even out of awkwardness. You might want to find a more out-of-the-way place to stash your clean-up material, even if it makes it a little more inconvenient. Unless you don't care that she might have evidence of your masturbatory excursions. Parents pretty much know kids do this, but there's generally a sort of tacit agreement that it isn't discussed.

I did read of one parent who was fed up that her (straight) son was constantly cleaning up with the good bathroom towels in his bathroom. So his mom left a series of notes, and after the behavior continued, she left a note that said "Either you start using old towels or toilet paper, or I'm going to redecorate your bathroom with unicorns and Britney Spears towels." Apparently that got the message across.

 

We're getting pretty close to the edge of what's appropriate discussion on EC, given that we have a lot of younger teens here. Not that there's anything even slightly wrong with exploring various types of masturbation; it's more that because we have people as young as 13, we have to somewhat limit what we can discuss in the public forums.

One thing I can suggest: There's a website called jackinworld.com which has a lot of useful information on masturbation. I don't think it talks much (if at all) about anal stimulation, nor about mindfulness-based masturbation, but it does have some good resources on techniques, even though it hasn't been updated in over a decade.

If you want to PM me or another staff member, or even open an ask-the-staff thread, this is something more appropriate to a less public discussion, given the nature of what you're asking, and the age of some of the population here. I think most of the staff would be comfortable talking about those issues in a less public setting. I hope that makes sense.

 

No worries, it's easy to forget. And it's something that we (the staff) struggle with, because young teens masturbate and sometimes engage in sexual activity as well, so we don't want to draw a line and say "we don't discuss that", but we also try to be thoughtful of having some sort of appropriate boundary.