Hey everyone, I'm 39 years old, bisexual and genderfluid (though biologically male). I've known since my 20s, and my wife was the first I told. She was and is very accepting of it, especially since she is also bi. I came out to my mother just this past year, and she claimed that she accepted it at first. However when I revealed some concerns I had with my genderfluidity; she seemed to change her mind. She even went as far as to say I should hide it. My sexuality and identity are s couple of our biggest fights. We still talk and stuff, but my sexuality or gender identity are things I haven't brought up since. I'm hoping to meet more friends in the LGBT community.
Hey @Fiera, i’m sorry to hear about your mother not accepting your sexuality and gender identity. I would love to talk if you would like i’m Loz!
Fiera.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent!) when that becomes necessary! *****There are 18 different sub-forums here that you can check out and join in the conversations or start your own thread/conversation. When I first joined Empty Closets I was in need of a lot of support and encouragement and I found it here…EC is a safe place. I hope that you'll find good things here too! Folks here will talk to you and share...you don't have to be afraid of asking questions...we're glad to have you! Empty Closets is all about making connections and giving LGBT folks a voice when they otherwise don't have one in their day-to-day lives. In particular you may want to check out the forum that is titled "Sexual Orientation”, there are people there who have dealt with some of the same kind of issues that could be challenging you. So sorry that your mom isn't very accepting. It's often tough for people of her generation (my generation ) to make the shift to understanding things that just weren't talked about or even understood very well when they were young. I'm glad that there has been progress even though lately it seems that things have been going backwards way too often. So glad that you found us...feel free to jump right in! Some info on how to navigate EC: When you have made at least 10 posts on various threads you will be able to post messages on a member's Profile Page. Just click on a member's Avatar Picture and then click on "Profile Page" in the dialogue box that pops up. You'll then be on their Profile Page and there will be a box that says: "Write Something" When you have been on EC for a few weeks and have made at least 50 posts on various forums, you can apply for Full Membership. A Full Member can send Private Messages (PM) to other Full Members and share personal contact info. Right now you can only send a PM to a Staff Member as that is always possible. Here is a quote from the Full Membership information forum: *****To be eligible you must be a member of Empty Closets for a minimum of two weeks, and have a minimum of 50 posts. These posts must be across numerous forums (Fun & Games does not contribute to post count), and consistently posted across a minimum of two weeks. You wouldn't be eligible, for example, if you registered, had no activity for two weeks, and then returned to post 50 times on your 14th day of membership. *****Well, as I said, we're very glad you found us! If you have any questions at all, you can always send me a Private Message. .....David
Thank you for your kind words and the info about this site. EC was referred to me by a friend and I'm glad I came here. I look forward to many posts and discussions as I continue learning more about the LGBTQ community.
