I'm pretty sad about it. He was the one that made me comfortable with my sexuality, and today he broke up with me after three months of dating. He told me that he felt guilty about us being in a relationship when I was too scared to tell my family. For Christmas he gave me a necklace and I don't want it anymore, so I will give it back to him when I go back to school.
It happened a few hours ago. Earlier today he told me how he was stressed out over how my family would possibly get angry for hiding my relationship from them.
do you know him in person or was it long distance? and i guess i can understand where he was coming from but i still dont think it was good enough a reason to break up with you. I hope im doing okay i realized im bad at comforting people
Dude, if a LGBT partner person can't understand that it is a process to come out to parents and family then there is something wrong. It sounds like a poor reason to break up. It sounds like your young, talking about school, you WILL find another person that makes you equally comfortable and special that won't pressure you to tell your parents until the time is right for you! I hope you feel better! Dean
Hi there! It is too bad that this happened but it sounds like that it will allow you to find someone that might have more understanding and is willing to give you the time you need to become comfortable with coming out to your parents. As hard as it might be to read but his reason for breaking up with you can be a strong reason for some as they are out, and don't want to feel needing to go back into the closet when they are with their boyfriend/partner who is not out. For some, being introduced as a 'friend' or needing to be mindful of not showing that one is together, can cause some stress as they don't want to relive of what was it like being in the closet. When you find someone with whom it clicks and you would like to ask them out, it might be good to try gauging as to whether they are okay with that you need your time to come out to your parents and/or other friends. If someone is really good with it, they will let you know and will have much more understanding for what you are going through.
In my opinion, as harsh as it is, I feel that it's good he was true about his feelings and how he was uncomfortable right now rather than later. Yes, you guys were together for 3 months, I won't deny that, but I'd say better late than never. Relationships can be based on compromises to a level, but can't stand time when there are uncomfortable feelings. I'm sure you'll find a more supportive person, one who understands the place you're in. As hard as it is right now, be patient and try to do something that'll cheer you up. Chin up!
At first he respected the fact that I wasn't ready to come out, but a few days ago he told me that the stress was killing him. I guess you're right there, and thanks.
You are hurting right now and are low. I am so sorry. Instead of focusing on the end of your relationship, consider remembering the many good times that you both shared together. These will provide happy memories for the future. The sorrow you feel now will gradually fade. My young friend, you are young and have many wonderful years ahead of you. There is someone else out there you will eventually meet who will give you great joy and happiness! Stay optimistic and hopeful! *smile*
With time, things will start to feel differently. You will have moments of feeling hurt, and disappointment for the next little while. Spending time with your friends and doing the things you like doing and help you to be distracted, will give you the chance to start turning the page. Once you have turned it, you'll be able to think about the good moments without feeling sad. (*hug*)
