I separated from my wife last Fall and have been a single-dad since. I have damn near zero time to socialize and if I do I'm in a smallish community with no connections to the LGBT community as of yet. I aim to change this but it isn't the priority right now. I have an account on a dating site just to check it out. I haven't even become a paying member yet because it's kind of pointless at the moment. But, I did try to make a presentable profile and have had some response. I was then stunned when a guy I had exchanged a couple casual messages with asked me to coffee or lunch. I don't think anyone has ever asked me out in my life much less a man. It is much more thrilling than it should be. I'm actually considering it but my life is just coming out of a disaster meltdown period and I'm not feeling very ready. I'm also in another relationship with a woman. It started casual but now seems to have some potential. I really care about her and want to see where it goes. She's said she's interested in open relationship but we haven't discussed it much, no rules set and I feel that the beginning of a relationship may not be a good time to explore with others. At least not for me. Even something as innocent as coffee. Still, it felt good to get that invite.
Truly wonderful feeling and funny how such a small thing can make one almost giddy. Go you in putting yourself out there and taking it all in. Sounds like you are heading in the right direction. Congrats!
Still shame to let your potential date with a man go cold. You used the word thrilling. Just imagine the fun you could miss out on. Sorry to be pushy.
Trust me I'm missing out on most things that would be considered fun these days. Like sleep. Nah, the timing is bad. I believe things will happen when they are supposed to.
Congrats ZF .... Before you pursue things with him, please be sure to have a conversation with her to make sure that you have an open relationship so that you can move forward with integrity.
