i'm very new to identifying as bisexual, and i seem to have an endless amount of questions and concerns. i always hope to not offend anyone or sound naive, but this is all just my true thoughts. since beginning to come out, i've read about how bisexual people receive a lot of backlash or have it harder finding a partner because, for example, if i'm a bisexual and have been with men, some women might be turned off because i've been with a man? i have found it difficult to find matches on dating apps and such, but i obviously can't know if this is what turns them away. why do people always assume we'll either be disloyal / unfaithful, or that we automatically are interested in threesomes? i'm feeling as though being a femme bisexual, it's practically impossible to find other femme bi/lesbians who are looking for the same thing rather than someone more masculine. this isn't really a stigma, but i suck at flirting with girls??? i was so comfortable doing so with men but i get so nervous with girls, mostly because as a female talking to men, they make most of the moves which is stereotypical but a very comfortable thing for me compared to this.
1) That some lesbians don't want to date bisexuals is definitely true. 2) Biphobia/stereotypes, the thought you can only be bisexual if you date a man and a woman at the same time, because you know your sexual orientation depends on who you date right? (of course it doesn't but lots of people think that!) 3 and 4 I don't really have an answer to.
1. I wonder if many bi women will put lesbian down instead of bi as their own profile... It might be the same with bi men on apps. I don't know. Maybe women don't go for bi men... Again I don't know... And maybe bi men will often call themselves gay on apps when looking for a man... I don't know. 2. I have no idea why they'd assume that. 3. Maybe a dating site would be more suitable for you than an app... You could give more clarity on there. 4. Keep flirting in the same way you do with guys. Persist.
