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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by doglover44, Dec 22, 2014.

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  1. Justinheller74

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    I was worried about my inlaws reaction too... Guess what, they LOVE me unconditionally, invited me to Christmas Eve and want me to bring my partner along in future years. These are people I would peg as very homophobic. Come to find out my mother-in-law had a girlfriend in College! Who Knew. Don't let the story in your head discourage you. You don't know how people will respond....
     
    #41 Justinheller74, Jan 12, 2015
  2. doglover44

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    Sorry to drag this thread on soo long
     
    #42 doglover44, Jan 13, 2015
  3. Wildside

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    not at all!!! this is a great thread. there are a lot of us "gay and married" guys out here, so I can't get enough of this particular topic. thanks for posting it, and thanks for keeping it going. The issues that you raise, and the advice that people have posted her has a much broader application than you could ever imagine. OMG, I am so totally gay and yet so totally afraid to come out to my wife. this thread is really a lot of help. thank you. :thumbsup:
     
    #43 Wildside, Jan 13, 2015
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    Totally agree with Wildside
     
    #44 quietman702, Jan 14, 2015
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    This thread is helping so many of us.
    Being married and gay is not just being in the closet but being in a padlocked closet.
    All of need to hear each others stories to validate us and give us support.
    So Doglover your posts are helping all of us.
    We all share the pain and terror before coming out.
    Every one's story is different but has elements that we can all identify with.

    As regards coming out to your wife, it can be planned or you might just blurt it out, however it happens you will be sweeting before hand.
    Once that Pandora's box is opened life will never be the same and for 99% of us it is a lot better.
    (&&&)
     
    #45 YermanTom, Jan 14, 2015
  6. Wildside

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    Wow, that is the best way that I have ever heard of putting it!!! I will remember that! Everyone struggles when they are in the closet, but that image of our marriage bond being the padlock on the closet door really expresses our reality. thanks!
     
    #46 Wildside, Jan 14, 2015
  7. doglover44

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    I just really wanna be out and be my happy gay self
     
    #47 doglover44, Jan 15, 2015
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    I referred to my closet as a panic room. :lol:
     
    #48 tscott, Jan 15, 2015
  9. Wildside

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    I call mine the torture chamber. kind of like a light but constant water boarding.
     
    #49 Wildside, Jan 15, 2015
  10. doglover44

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    I am stuck in my panic room
     
    #50 doglover44, Jan 15, 2015
  11. doglover44

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    I got a plan
     
    #51 doglover44, Jan 15, 2015
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    What's the plan?
     
    #52 bi2me, Jan 17, 2015
  13. happyhamster144

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    I have been following your thread since I joined what is your plan?
     
    #53 happyhamster144, Jan 17, 2015
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    I just joined the group. Looking for others who are also currently or have gone through coming out while married. Really looking forward to seeing the plan. I need one!!
     
    #54 maybgayguy, Jan 17, 2015
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    Hi Maybegayguy
    There are quite a few of us on the site either just come out to our spouses or working up to doing it. Have a look in the LGBT in later life section.
     
    #55 happyhamster144, Jan 17, 2015
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    Thanks for the note! Is there a section here or is this part of the forum. A section would be fantastic...but this forum is great too!
     
    #56 maybgayguy, Jan 17, 2015
  17. doglover44

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    Got a better paying job so now I can move and support myself now
     
    #57 doglover44, Jan 17, 2015
  18. Wildside

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    CONGRATULATIONS!!! (!) (!!) (!) that is such a huge step. Enjoy your new freedom. :eusa_clap
     
    #58 Wildside, Jan 18, 2015
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    Awesomesauce!!
     
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    There is no easy way if you mean without hurt, anger, confusion, etc. However, she probably knows something and won't be as surpassed as you suspect. There is no other route than simple and honest.

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    surprised
     
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