Feeling 'hidden' as a lesbian just because I have long hair

Wow, you sound exactly like me. Not much I can say except that people are going to invalidate other's sexuality no matter what due to stereotypes they hold. It sucks, but better to be who you are than force a fake image.

 

I feel ya, i'm a lot like you OP. I'm a shy, quiet, socially awkward, but kind introvert plus i've got long hair (medium length when i get it cut on occasion). I'm generally pretty patient but i can be moody on bad days. I never wear makeup and i dress in jeans and a t-shirt or polo and tennis shoes most days, sandals and knee-length shorts in summer. I don't fit the stereotype either so most people assume i like guys. And being in the closet to 90% of the people in my life, i'm not in a position to go correcting people either. It sucks. Even if i come out and cut my hair a bit, i don't think i'd come across as gay to anybody which is hard. I mean right now i can't but eventually i would like to start dating when i'm in a better position.

 

Hey I can understand how you feel hidden but you shouldn't change your appearance if that's how you feel comfortable. If you want to be a bit more easily noticeable perhaps getting a little rainbow bracelet or something would help.

 

Exact thought on my mind every day as I am a shy and sort of feminine lesbian too! My environment doesn't allow me to come out openly and discuss about my orientation but I've had people around me making fun of someone else's sexual orientation without realizing I could possibly be a lesbian as well.

 

Same OP! Being gay and socially awkward is not a good time.

 

I have long hair all I wear are jeans t-shirts and runners and I am most definitely an introvert. So yeah people assume I'm straight despite the fact I'm 25 and never had a boyfriend. Let people assume what they want and tell who you want that you're gay. There is no way to look like a lesbian everyone looks different gay or straight some people are obvious some aren't. You do you.

 

So you probably are tomboyish or femme, is what I'm assuming? That's fine. Doesn't change how attractive you are. Just keep coming out of the closet and over time it'll be more obvious to others. LGBT isn't always a "lifestyle," it's a part of your identity. You don't have to change anything about yourself to be a valid lesbian. I honestly don't get why some groups give certain lesbians such ***** for being "too feminine" or "too masculine" or for being "slightly bisexual." That's just self-contradicting. Just be yourself.