Hi guys, Thanks for all the support here! It's been a totally rough year for me- I left my husband earlier this year (finally I'm going to see a lawyer on Friday!), realized I'm pretty gay, starting going to lesbian meetups/ seeing people on dating apps etc. But it's all overwhelming at the moment- I would love to meet someone, but then on the other hand, I'm not even sure I should be in any relationship (even casual). Ugh. And some girls have expressed interest in me, but I had no attraction to them (but I do like them as friends!), and when I did meet someone I was attracted to, she wasn't interested in me. Boohoo I feel so depressed...but then I think I should just not even date at all- impending divorce, taking care of my child etc etc. Some people seem able to jump into new relationships right away, but I guess I'm just not there (but it would be nice to be intimate with someone, well, that's pretty messy I think, being in a FWB situation). Any advice? Whyyyyyyyyyy is it all so complicated? Why am I such a mess?
Hey I dont think you sound a mess, I think you just have a lot going on. When you have so much going on it can feel really overwhelming and as though you will never come out the other side. I think you just need to take it one step at a time, focus on the next thing you want to achieve and work towards that. You might not be ready to date right now but that doesn't mean you wont ever. I am sure when the time is right you will meet someone where the feeling is mutual.
I agree - in less than a year you have ended a serious relationship, realised your sexuality is different from what you always thought it was, started going to meet-ups and started dating girls. That is a huge amount of stuff for one person to handle (I'm in awe of you!) and it's no surprise at all if you're finding all the changes a bit overwhelming. I don't really have any advice (I'm not as far ahead as you are) but I think you should give yourself a huge pat on the back for everything you've done and cut yourself some slack .
I agree with Silverhalo, definitely take it one step at a time , don’t rush just enjoy your life, you took a huge step in finding yourself. In time you will find a women.. but right now meet people, your out and should be proud of yourself. Explore your sexuality now.. don’t follow the trend of jumping into another relationship so fast.. I wouldn’t recommend it
