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Family thinks I'm gay (not bi), don't know how to tell them I'm dating a guy

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by skittleALY, Dec 9, 2017.

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  1. skittleALY

    skittleALY
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    Location:
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    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Family only
    So I told my parents a few years ago that I liked girls. They assumed I was gay, and at the time I didn't think I wanted to date guys again anyway so I just kind of went with it? I sometimes think I'm maybe demisexual, and for probably most of my life before that I wasn't sexually attracted to guys.

    I've gone out on dates with girls after that, but no relationships unfortunately. Recently however the one guy that I think I liked before coming out to my family contacted me again and I decided to give him another chance.

    I think I really like him, and am not sure how to break it to my family that I'm dating a guy. I know this is a little bit different, but I guess that I'm afraid that it'll invalidate my sexual identity to them and make them think that I didn't know who I liked, when I did? Also I think that they'll be a little upset lol.

    So yeah, has anyone else been in this situation or have any advice?
     
    #1 skittleALY, Dec 9, 2017
  2. dopplershift94

    dopplershift94
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    Hey,
    Just be upfront with them and say "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm kinda seeing a guy." If they are confused, say something like "I know you thought I was gay, but I'm actually Bi." Form there, it's up to them to process and accept it.
     
    #2 dopplershift94, Dec 10, 2017
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