I have never had sex with someone of the same sex, but have had sex with women. I have never had a dream about having dex with a guy even. Every dream that is related to sex include women. I also strongly prefer straight porn, and no, Im not focusing on the guy. I tend to get crushes on men though so I am a bit confused. Gay or bi?
Dreams and porn are not good indications of sexuality. Lesbians can like gay porn, straight girls can like lesbian porn because of differences in the direction/style/quality. Dreams can be influenced by all kinds of factors and it's not an exact science. I didn't have sex-related dreams about the same sex until after I accepted my sexuality, but I was and am attracted to the same sex. Reality is the best indication of sexuality. You can be mindful of how you feel as you experience life. You don't have to have all the answers right away. It can be helpful to work out any issues you might have that could be getting you stuck. I think sexuality is a spectrum and some lean heavily towards one end or the other. Even if you're capable of feeling attraction towards women maybe you don't or rarely get crushes. That's ok.
dreams build upon real life experiences. while they can morph these experiences into something that no longer resembles anything you've ever gone through, it is a lot 'easier' to dream something you know. you've had sex with women, so it's a lot easier for your brain to project that memory than it is to construct a new one. as such, they may mean absolutely nothing. like Cinnamon Bunny says above, porn is also a relatively worthless indicator of sexuality. When considering if you're gay and bi, rely on real life experiences: do you experience crushes on men only, or on men and women? take your time to answer that, there's no rush to know the answer. you're also very free to identify as one of these and then, if you later learn you were wrong (either because you experience new attractions or lose attractions for one gender, or because you learn more about your attractions and realise they weren't genuine) you can always switch to the other label. That's ok - a lot of people go through that process! It doesn't mean you were wrong, either: just that at this specific time, that label best embraces how you feel, and later you might learn more about yourself causing you to change it. And maybe you won't, then that's easy
Thank you both for good answers. I am 27 but I dont feel that I need to stress, apart from some days. Those days I feel sick of questioning, and feel Iike I need a clear answer. I have never had a crush on a girl I think, but I sometimes get some small "crushes" when drinking alcohol. I crush on guys and notice guys more than women in public. But when it comes to sex, I tend to be able to get turned on more easily by women (even randoms) but when it comes to guys I need to know them better to be sexually attracted.
