If being trans defined me, that would suck. I never chose this, nor would I ever have chosen this. As for being bi, though, that defines my sexual preferences. :lol:
It's obviously important, but it's not as defining as stuff like my gender, age, native language, nationality etc. I don't allow people to sweep my sexuality under the rug, but I am not my sexuality, and reducing me to purely that is just as bad.
I was actually thinking about this exact thing the other day, but I've forgotten most of my awesome arguments I thought up I agree that sexuality does actually play a large part in who you are. It's not everything, certainly, which is why I do get annoyed when people say that, but it controls whom I fall in love with, instant access to the LGBT community and it even has an impact on who my friends are (though hopefully that will soon be a non-issue).
Nope. It's part of who I am, but doesn't so much manifest in an obvious way. For example, if you put me next to a straight guy and observed our mannerisms and behaviour you wouldn't be able to tell any difference (except the subtle difference that I may turn my head at a guy I like). I mean, at the end of the day I spend so much time doing various things, it's not like I'm always on the lookout for a partner or having sex (which doesn't happen at all at the moment ). I'm just busy working, or doing stuff with my kids and the whole time I'm doing that, I'm just me and my sexuality doesn't factor in to that in the slightest. Happy days
No, for me it dosent, it is only a small part in the over all definition of me. I don't think bein bisexual defines me. If it did I think I'd like to be dead because of how badly I am judged by both heterosexuals and the lgbt community. I am bisexual, but that dosent mean much to me. It's not all that I am.
Wow - a lot of responses coming in here! I understand the general consensus - most people consider it a large part of themselves, but not the most important one. The question that leads me to, then, is what does define you?
Not in the slightest. I don't bother telling people I'm gay unless they inquire or it comes up in conversation for some reason. I don't think anything defines me. I've never really given it much thought.
I'd be lying if I said it didn't defy me a little bit. For example most activities I do at some stage a thought will occur to me in my head that "I'm a gay person enjoying this movie/book/game/thingy" but in saying that I'm still on the side of my sexuality is just my sexuality, and I was the same person before I accepted myself as I am now, so how can it define me if it didn't affect me in the slightest? As for what does define me....I think my big ears. Or something I don't know to be honest.
I feel this way too about being bisexual, not the dead part, just a feeling like I'm in a void area between two sides. When I had a same sex relationship, I can't say it defined me either, but it definitely influenced my life. I left my family and the area of the country that I grew up in to be with the woman I loved. As far as our life together we were just like any straight couple, except we couldn't legally marry. I don't feel like I'm a different person on non sexual issues now that I'm in a relationship with my guy. He didn't turn me straight, nor have I suddenly found religion and become a homophobic right wing wacko. I'm doing the exact same things in my life that I was doing before.
Nope. Being gay isn't all that defines me. For sure, it's part of me and impacts my actions but other things are also part of me and impact my actions such as wearing glasses
I don't really use a label, but I find people don't always accept that as an accurate response. I find men attractive but don't find any emotional attraction. I don't think that really makes me a lesbian. I don't really like the term bisexual either - it makes it so open ended and sounds pushy.
I wouldn't say it defines me, but then again... I'm the only one who knows it. Even if people did know, it would be only 1 thing of many things that would define who I am.
If this were an argument, you would have won it. The thing is, though, a heterosexual man's sexuality does define him. It encourages him all the more to fit into the heteronormative stereotype of what a man is supposed to be - be strong and rude, get girls, and treat them badly. It's how men are taught to behave nowadays. So maybe they don't see it quite as acutely, but it, too, defines them.
Well, this has a familiar ring. For me, it doesn't define me. It is largely an internal process that is not tangible from the outside, for the most part. On a list, sexuality would fall into the 11-20 range. For some, it is #1. Whatever floats someone's boat. I am in agreement with you that (my) interests, outlook, quirks, and personality are what separate me from the crowd. However, I can't be like the crowd, so why bother? ---------- Post added 24th Apr 2014 at 09:17 PM ---------- Brief and to the point.
No, which is why I personally never really bought into the whole "gay pride" thing. I'm not proud of being gay any more than I'm proud of having brown hair and eyes.
I'll speak up on this one. I'm not proud that I'm gay--I am intensely proud that I am out and part of a community where everyone sat down one day and decided that they were willing to lose everything to live a life of truth and love. Damn right I'm proud.
