Do I need to come out to my wife?

ok, so this is my POV. my marriage ended in june 2013, when she had her 3rd round of self harm, this time in front of our 14yr old. that aside, i came out to myself in the spring of '14. i have opted not to tell her as it would add a hugh wrinkle to an already complicated situation. i share this to give a prespective of do what is best for you and keep in mind that your kids should come before you or your wife, not to say that you "should stay together for the kids" that actually brings more harm to them, in my opinion because they know when things arent right with their parents and this imposes more stress on them. also it is possible to parent together while living apart, but it takes effort on both parents part.

BTW, my son lives with me, we only had the one. and he knows about my orientation and gender and is accepting of it whole heartedly.