DO gay men find women sexually attrative?

A bit of a different perspective to this question; I've been wondering the same thing. I find myself interested in gay men but bc I'm genderfluid I feel like theres no way that they'd reciprocate my feelings and I'm being gross for objectifying other men. Wasn't really planning on replying to this thread, but bc of the ppl who outrightly said no, theres no way a man who identifies as gay could be interested in a woman sexually bc thats just silly-- kinda wanna put the reminder out that genderfluid people exist. So yeah.. everything is a continuum.

It sounds like you should try out how comfortable you are with interacting with gay men and see if its affirming. Good luck!

 

Well, I know several different answers to this.

For myself: I get kind of nervous around women, I sometimes feel like I am attracted to them, but I can't really picture being physical with any lady. I have nothing against any girl, but since coming out I had at least two women literally throwing themselves on top of me and I go slightly uncomfortable, but not aroused. But still, sometimes I'm curious about women, which is why I alternate between the labels "gay" and "bi" a lot. If anybody calls me out on that I explain it.

I have some gay friends who described a vagina as the "wet throat of hell" yet will happily make out with a women when drunk :-D

I know at least two (mostly) gay guys who fell in love with women including sex with men and are now back to being (mostly) exclusively with men.

If I am attracted to a woman/not cis-man, it's mostly butch lesbians or ftm/mask genderqueer people. So I am still attracted to more male presenting individuals, which is why I use gay.

 

I think that as previous users mentioned, there is a difference between finding someone attractive and being attracted to them. I can appreciate the beauty of a girl, but sex would not be something that I would enjoy.

 

Hey FJS,

Wow, you're reading my mind. Boobs. Asses. Feminine curves. Eyes and hair. All catch my eye.
I'm 46 and very confused about all of this, btw. It's the intercourse that doesn't work for me somehow. I've always gotten all fired up sexually thinking about women, but unable to really release. So, I get excited and everything feels good, but there's no real build up to orgasm. And when I do finally get there. IF I GET THERE. The orgasm feels wrong somehow. Off.
I also have a lot of female friends, but find dating awkward and uncomfortable. I worry about when she will want to kiss and make out and have sex. I don't really want that even though I'm really attracted. I can get a hard on MUCH easier after the date ends than while I'm with the girl. Literally, after the date ends, I can think about her body and get really turned on. But not when I'm with her.
I've noticed men too. I can picture myself kissing a man and that feeling good, but it doesn't translate into wanting sex with the man. Anything below the belt doesn't particularly do much for me. Maybe I'm just too in the closet in my own head still. Not sure. Gay porn doesn't do it for me either, but watching big dick videos, I can imagine how that must feel for the woman and that gets me excited. Lesbian and women masturbating too. That gets me fired up. The problem is there's no role for me in these fantasies other than watcher.

It's been very confusing. So, you're not alone. Not at all.
-nsam