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Do any of you other bisexual guys get treated like you're straight?

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  1. anonmember

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    Whenever people ask me what my goals are in life, even after I told them I'm bisexual, they always say stuff like "you want a wife, right?". And at that point I always feel tempted to call them out and be like "Or a husband.", which I actually used to do, but I've called them out on it multiple times before and they still seem to deny the possibility that I could get a husband, so now I've realized that calling them out on it is likely just a burden to them so I just pretend like I don't care. Does anyone else have people completely ignore your bisexuality and have people make comments like you're straight?
     
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    It would make more sense for them to say something like "You want a marriage partner, right?"
     
    #2 anonmember, May 20, 2018
  3. Federico98

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    One of my high school professors thought that being gay or straight is ok, but being bisexual is wrong, since you have to choose what you are
     
    #3 Federico98, May 20, 2018
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    It’s not just straight people who believe that
     
    #4 Biguy45, May 20, 2018
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    People assume im straight because I have a wife
     
    #5 Jakebusman, May 20, 2018
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    Just because I don’t hit on all the girls I see, it doesn’t mean I am straight.

    Identifying as bisexual also doesn’t mean I perpetually horny.
     
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    Yes, but I sort of do that on purpose. Since I am not out to many people and don't live in a state known for its LGBQ support.
     
    #7 Shorthaul, May 21, 2018
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    I get treated like I am straight, because know one knows. I wish people did. I wish no one assumed that anyone was any sexual orientation.
     
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    Exactly
     
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    The challenge is that a pretty significant number of people use the 'bisexual' label as a bridge identity as they are becoming comfortable with accepting that they are gay or lesbian. And that's not ideal for several reasons. First, it essentially means people have to come out twice (once as bisexual, then again as gay). It also allows people who don't want to accept that someone has same-sex attraction to stay in denial (hence the "Well,, but you're still going to marry a girl, right"). And it also causes a lot of people to assume that everyone who says they are bisexual is really gay but hasn't accepted it yet... which does a huge disservice to people who are genuinely bisexual.

    I do think that people who are genuinely gay or lesbian have a responsibility to address that within themselves, get over the shame, and identify themselves accordingly, and not use the 'bisexual' label for convenience, because it causes a lot of problems for those who are genuinely bisexual.

    And those who are genuinely bisexual can educate others about the bridge identity issue and help to change perceptions.
     
    #10 Chip, May 22, 2018
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