Difficulty to date a man for long time.

What are some of the difficulties you are referring to with past boyfriends, if you don't mind me asking

 

In my experience both women and men can jump steps as you put it. Unfortunately that's part of the dating scene. I think most of the time people are looking for short term or fun first, and romance second. If it develops into something longer term, then it does. I'm a hopeless romantic myself but I understand and acknowledge most people are not.

I also learned that sometimes you can be mistaken when you think people are jumping steps when they actually just have a higher experience level than you. It's a hard pill to swallow. I've had to acknowledge that what I consider to be fast in a relationship is normal for other people my age because my experience level isn't quite up to par.

If these men your flirting/talking with appear to be jumping steps, then I wouldn't shut it down altogether. Just be clear with communicating your boundaries and ask them to slow down. If they can't acknowledge or readjust to a pace you're comfortable with, then it may not be right for you. Guys can be dense sometimes but they are good problem solvers. As long as they understand, they can work towards a goal.

Also don't be afraid to open up and step outside the box. I've recently started using dating apps and it's pushing my comfort zone. There were quite a few uncomfortable subjects that I've had to work through and talk about. Everything that seemed fast before is becoming more normal and even paced now.