Depressed Hetero Male Seeking Advice on Lesbian ex Best Friend.

I know it hurts but you'll probably find someone else to that you will have a connection like this again it hurts to be erased from someone's life but if someone can easily do that that means they really never cared for you in the first place .

 

I most add, the only reason to contacting her, is in hope of things returning to what they where before... But the thing is... Even that is NOT a reason to contacting her... Not only cause its unlikely and you are already with a harrastment order but also cause it have the contrary effect of 'making things return to as they where' it will instead reinforce her image she have of you as the bad guy, actually the ideal thing would have been to cut contact since the beginning... I mean, this are the effects of contacting her:

1- going to jail
2- remaining obssesed about her, not being able to forget her, not getting closure
3- making her pull away from you even further.

So you have extra extra extra reasons why you SHOULD NOT CONTACT HER


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Now, suggestion on how to forget about her and keep up with your life:

You lost something, specifically a friend, when you lose a friend the best way to fill that hole is with more friends. So begin going to activities or workshops or whatever, that both keep your mind occupied and help you with meeting new friends, and getting human contact.

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Also, its likely you feel insulted, that usually happen when we you get rejected, or even worst when we get accused of something. Its natural to feel awful when someone treats you like a bad guy, also the hate that comes from others can become self hate, and their accusations into guilt and shame. So i suggest you take action to combat this feelings:

join some group/ organization that help others, wether homeless people/ sick people

The best way to get rid of negative emotions is by contradicting them with action. Combine this with going to a therapist.

Hope this helps... Good luck, We are here to help

 

You will you might even find someone better than her . I've been where you were minus the rape and restraining order

 

Well l dated this girl used me for sex , it was a long distance relationship and when she got want she wanted from me she tossed like yesterday's trash. I tired so hard to keep her but she pushed away from me . She preferred hanging out with friends than seeing me .we had a talk and I asked if she wants to be with me she said no and that she never loved me . When l was out of her life she seemed like she forgot about me like l never existed . It was hurtful like the years we spent together meant nothing

 

We were together for 2years ,It took me about a year to get over her, when l look back on it she wasn't even that good looking I've seen way better looking women probably would have treated me a lot better.
Thanks she probably is .

 

Wow :eek: This chick is clearly a bisexual in denial clearly excuse my language but she is hungry for penis why have sex with all these men . I'm glad that man filed a complaint against her because what she's doing is wrong using men like that then acting like the victim :tantrum:
she's clearly got issues chicks like that are nothing but trouble :eusa_naug

She's clearly bi going through some serious denial

 

Sounds like my ex :rolle: Does this woman have short blond hair ?

 

Good because I was gonna give her a talking too :tantrum:
Yeah girls like that are dangerous and love to use people and abused people

 

just stay away from that woman she's nothing but trouble

 

definitely don't put your hands on her , but women like these are best to be forgotten they are nothing but trouble and only care about themselves

 

You do and the real her sucks :tantrum:
you'll make other friends but like I say stay away from twisted bitches