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Definitely into guys, but I'm a bit confused about girls (talks about sex stuff too)

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by NikkisHideout, Jan 10, 2017.

  1. NikkisHideout

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    Alright, so I'm feeling quite confused at the moment. I'm pretty sure I'm gay - I'm definitely attracted to other boys, I think they're hot, I fantasise about them, and if I imagine points later in life, like being in a relationship, moving in, perhaps getting married, then I want to have that with a guy. No doubt on that part.

    But, and here's when the weird stuff starts (beware, now shit gets a bit sexual!):

    When I fantasise about guys, it's about me being dominated by them. I've never even kissed anyone before, but I'm very much into the idea of submitting to a guy. But I found that I can also get off to thinking about girls, but, like, only above the waist. The idea of (or just mention of) anything below a girl's skirt repulses me and makes me want to throw up, but at the same time, I get off at the thought of female "endowment" above the waist (yes, I'm a blushing virgin who can't even spell "sex" without stuttering).

    I really don't know what to feel right now. I want to be dominated by boys, but I also imagine getting sexual with girls, as long as it doesn't involve full-on intercourse. I have no idea what to call that, and I feel like not only I have to be gay (no problems with that, but sooner or later other people will give me trouble for that), but I can't even be properly gay. Also, I've come out to quite a few people, and I'm afraid of having to nullify that statement, because a coming-out isn't really something you can take back.

    Every advice would be very appreciated.

    Nik

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    P.S: I also can't really imagine being with a female - kissing, perhaps, at most, but even that idea feels uncomfortable. Basically I feel fine imagining very explicit things with girls (though I always feel bad afterwards), but the mere thought to actually be in an intimate situation with a girl is really weird or even outright repulsive.
     
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    Re: Definitely into guys, but I'm a bit confused about girls (talks about sex stuff t

    Wow I can literally identify with almost everything you have just said.

    I'm afraid I can't really help you as I'm in pretty much the same situation as you, it will be interesting to see what other people have to say.
     
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    Re: Definitely into guys, but I'm a bit confused about girls (talks about sex stuff t

    There is nothing wrong with you! I don't think you have to be completely repulsed by girls to call yourself gay.. You can see yourself with a guy and it feels right to you..since the thought of you being with a girl makes you feel uncomfortable it's obvious that you're a perfect gay man
    Don't think about it too much.. Just do what you like!
     
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    Re: Definitely into guys, but I'm a bit confused about girls (talks about sex stuff t

    You just sound gay to me. Sometimes we have intrusive thoughts about the non preferred sex, but if you really don't want to have sex with them....you're probably gay.
     
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    Re: Definitely into guys, but I'm a bit confused about girls (talks about sex stuff t

    Most mammals, of both genders, like boobs. I don't think it changes your basic identity, which sounds gay. But maybe you will find a girl who only wants to play above the waist. There are all types out there.
     
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    Re: Definitely into guys, but I'm a bit confused about girls (talks about sex stuff t

    I concur. Plenty of gay guys can see a certain level of attraction in people of both sexes, but the idea of actual sex is a complete turn-off. From what you describe, you sound either gay or Pretty far toward the gay end of the spectrum.
     
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    Re: Definitely into guys, but I'm a bit confused about girls (talks about sex stuff t

    I feel sort of similar. I'm attracted to guys and I have no interest in being the active partner, but I'm unsure of how I feel about women sexually. I'd like to possibly experiment someday, but like I said I have no interest in being the person doing the penetration.

    Just curious, theoretically how do you feel about the thought of having sex with a woman wearing a strap-on?
     
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    Re: Definitely into guys, but I'm a bit confused about girls (talks about sex stuff t

    Thanks for your responses, I'm glad that I'm not the only one who worries about that, and thanks for your advice!

    Uh. I don't know? Never really thought about it. First thought that comes to my mind is something like, "kinda really hot, but also kinda not really what I want."

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    (The above) Like something I could think about, but something where I'd rather run away if it were real.