Have any gay trans men (as in assigned male at birth) ever gone out in public dressed up like a girl?. I forgot to mention this before. I've been cross dressing 24/7 in my flat now since the end of November last year. I got that used it that I'd forgot I was wearing them a few weeks ago.in the day. Some guy from the letting agent was going around the block checking all the fire alarms. He knocked my door and I answered what he wanted and then he explained what he was doing. He checked the alarm and I was talking to him and asked a few questions about the alarm and various other things. We were having a conversation and then he said goodbye and left. I didn't realise until an hour later that I was fully cross dressed the whole time. He didn't even batter an eyelid. This got me excited and me think about doing it again lol
To answer your question I have! But I wouldn’t consider it crossdressing, I’ve done it a few times. It just felt right. I’ve been catcalled last week which really hurt me emotionally (and turned me into a staunch feminist) but at least I feel more in tune with my gender. By the way, why do you consider yourself a trans male despite identifying as a woman? And you say crossdressing? It feels as if you don’t understand the terms properly (which is fair) or you’re still clinging to the ‘male’ side of your life for whatever reason
If you're a trans woman it's not crossdressing but yeah I mostly just wear girls clothes. I'm in guy clothes for hopefully for the last time this week. A lot of people don't really care and some will be supportive but you may face some level of abuse from people. I'd love to tell you that you won't but I don't pass and have recieved a different kind of harassment to catcalling and it's pretty painful unless you have thick skin
You can crossdress and still identify as a man. Drag queens exist for a reason! Simple question: do you like she/her pronouns more or he/him?
Yes she / her. The thought of me being a drag queen is complete turn off. When I dress up in a sexy outfit (Ie maids outfit) I see a woman. I feel like there should be breasts there and no "stick" Def not drag queen
Chances are if you like she/her you’re probably a trans woman. So maybe don’t doubt yourself. What you described is pretty common gender dysphoria, so maybe you should contact your gp to start the medical process? (Unless you already have…)
If I could wave a magic wand I would be a full biological woman immediately....but I'm not I don't wanna do surgery or actually do the hormones. I don't know what to think anymore
You said you wanted boobs just before… Which can pretty much only be accessed through hormones. Surgery isn’t required, it’s optional. But again, you refer to not liking your ‘stick’ before… You’re giving mixed signals here lol
Yes I'd like all of this in an ideal world. But whether I like it or not I'm a biological male and I'm not a woman, even though I should have been born one.
Living a life full of regret like not being born a woman will just lead to a lot of emotional pain. The best way to enjoy your life is to just accept who you are. Live your life being proud of being trans instead of regretting what you’re not. Also the definition of biological male is very vague. XY and XX aren’t a good indicator of it, as variations exist. Are people with Down syndrome now a different sex because they have an extra sex chromosome? Then the secondary sex argument comes into play. Yes men generally have penises. However what do you classify intersex people as? Some people have male and female sex characteristics, so are they a new sex? Are they a ‘biological male/ female’? So here’s my best definition of it- your hormones determine your sex. Androgens make your sex male and oestrogen/progesterone make you female sex. So please don’t simply sex down to your genitals/ chromosomes please.
I really think there should be a moratorium on the prefix 'biological'. It's usually used by TERFs and transphobes to put up barriers between us. I'm female and I always have been. It's just that I was unlucky enough to be born with a male sex organ, at a time when the world was immensely transphobic. Anyway, Phil...I get the impression you're still 'bargaining'. It's ok. But I just like to relate my own experience, I guess - for me the breakthrough was the moment when I realised that the reason I had always always wanted to be a girl wasn't because I was perverted or had some weird fetish or was crazy or strange and f***ed up. It was because I am one. Beth x
Yeah it sounds like you have a girl inside you should let out. Embrace it. We can't help the way we were born but we can do something about it now. I can't tell you that some people won't be arseholes about it because they will but transitioning could mean you're actually comfortable in your own skin. The majority of trans people are much happier after transitioning than before and there are so many things about the process that are euthoric as hell.
