Hi I'm a married(soon to be separated) man to a woman. I'm 33 and been in denial since thinking I was gay once hitting puberty. Although I probably didn't find my wife particularly sexually attractive I never found having sex with her a chore, I in fact enjoyed it. I'm definitely attracted to men and trans but I still think I would enjoy sex with my wife and other women. I maybe need to explore more but I would identify as gay. Just a bit confused? Open to advice.
Have you talked to your wife about these feelings ? I am Bi and it was hard for me to tell my wife about my feelings for liking men.
Hi there. I don't really have any advice, except to say that if you feel safe enough doing so, communication can be a very helpful thing. Only if you feel safe though. I've had to tell my husband that I'm not sexually attracted to him. There were so many other conversations before that though. I understand some of what you're going through and am always happy to give my support even if I can't give advice.
Welcome to EC AlexKS, I’m a married man who now identifies as bisexual (came out about 4+ years ago), still married (I’m older than you, and my wife and I have been together over 30 years). If you haven’t already found it, the Later In Life sub forum is a great place for those of use who are dealing with this in adulthood. You found your way to a great supportive place. Empty Closets has been very helpful to me, and I hope it will be for you too!
AlexKS.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent!) when that becomes necessary! *****There are 18 different sub-forums here that you can check out and join in the conversations or start your own thread/conversation. There is a possibility that you are bisexual since you are able to be intimate with your wife will your are still able to consider have sex with men. You didn't say if you actually had sex with men, but it sounds like you had no problem with the concept. In particular you may want to check out the forum that is titled "Sexual Orientation”, there are people there who have dealt with some of the same kind of issues that could be challenging you.When you have made at least 10 posts on various threads you will be able to post messages on a member's Profile Page. Just click on a member's Avatar Picture and then click on "Profile Page" in the dialogue box that pops up. You'll then be on their Profile Page and there will be a box that says: "Write Something" When you have been on EC for a few weeks and have made at least 50 posts on various forums, you can apply for Full Membership. A Full Member can send Private Messages (PM) to other Full Members and share personal contact info. Right now you can only send a PM to a Staff Member as that is always possible. Here is a quote from the Full Membership information forum: *****To be eligible you must be a member of Empty Closets for a minimum of two weeks, and have a minimum of 50 posts. These posts must be across numerous forums (Fun & Games does not contribute to post count), and consistently posted across a minimum of two weeks. You wouldn't be eligible, for example, if you registered, had no activity for two weeks, and then returned to post 50 times on your 14th day of membership. *****Well, as I said, we're very glad you found us! If you have any questions at all, you can post a question on my Profile Page or send me a Private Message. .....David
