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Coming Out to My Parents

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by BeauBella, Jul 18, 2020.

  1. BeauBella

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    I've already told my brother and friend who is also closeted. I've read up on plenty of ways to come out to parents/family and I'm not sure what to do anymore. I was thinking to ask my parents for a pan & lgbtq flag for my birthday... but I'm not sure anymore.

    Any advice?
     
  2. rktonks

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    I mean, I came out crying when, I front of them while also admitting to a bunch of bad things (cutting and drinking) I’d also done. I wouldn't recommend that XD.

    Some one thought this would be a cool thing. Email, quick text or note like,
    ‘Hey, went to so in so’s house,
    Be back by 10! I will have tons of fun, don’t miss me!
    -Beaubella
    P. S. I am pansexual! ‘
    Good one, right?
     
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    Call your parents into your room, and hide in the closet, and come out when they come in.

    For more serious suggestions, there really no wrong way. Talk face-to-face, write a letter, call; whatever you think is most comfortable.
     
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    I wish I could give you sage advice. My gay son first came out to his mother when he was about 14, and apparently they debated amongst themselves for a while (some months, I believe) how they should tell me. For me it was a complete non-issue: my oldest and dearest friend is gay, as are many other friends and acquaintances. I have no idea why my wife and son were worried, but it was worry wasted. Do your parents have any friends who are same-sex attracted - or maybe partnered, or married? As a very general rule (and obviously not always true by any means), people who are professional, and non-religious, tend to more open to, and accepting of, diversity. Even with their children.
     
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    Well, my mom's aunt is gay, was married to a woman. But I really don't know if she'd understand why I'm pan so maybe! Thank you guys! <3
     
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    Hope you come out soon ?