So I wrote a letter to my parents and need some advice - if its ok or not Dear mum and dad I don't really know how to start this letter but I know I have to do it. Before I say anything else, I want you to know that I love you so much, you have been wonderful parents and please don’t think this changes anything. And I want you both to read your copies and then talk about it make sure you read it all the way through. I’m writing it in a letter as I know I can put everything in and not miss anything out I’ve nearly said it before but couldn’t find the words I also can’t tell you how many times I’ve felt like crying in tears of shame and guilt when you tell me you’re proud of me. I know you and I aren't as close as you want us to be anymore (especially mum, I love you), and that because of my own fears I have created this wall, because I’m afraid. I’m really afraid… And I know some people say you don’t have to tell your parents as it’s not their life but I want you to know as I love you and I think you have the right to know. So here goes… I am gay I want you to know it has nothing to do with your parenting you are both amazing even you git haha.( we call each other that- my dad) I want you both to read this whole letter before coming up with all these opinions as I know you will have thoughts of me growing up getting a husband and having kids I did for myself but I know that is probably not going to happen and this has been really hard for me, as I know it will be for you but I think you will accept me as me. I have been trying to accept myself for me and now I have so I think I should tell you. I need you both to know that this is not a chose and if I could I would be straight. Deep down I've known this for some years but I've tried to ignore it because I thought it would go away and I could be like everyone else. I never talked to anyone about it because that would mean admitting it to myself. However, in since last summer I have slowly started to realise how exhausting and silly this denial was. It’s hard to be friends with people that you can’t be honest with and I started to see that I could lie to everyone around me but I couldn't lie to myself any more. The pretending and avoiding became a bigger burden than it was worth. So last summerish I started to accept myself for me and it felt amazing and now I am I've told a few of my close friends both I think you don’t know one I am/went on holiday with. And now I am telling you. I am probably at a mate’s house nervous as hell if you want to ring me its fine but we can have a conversation whenever you are ready and I know it may take time for you to accept me as I did take time for me to accept me for me. I want to say I'm sorry for becoming a bit distant with you recently. It was hard not being able to tell you the truth but I had to do things in my own time and when I was ready. Lots of love Amy
Personally I'd remove this paragraph: "I want you both to read this whole letter before coming up with all these opinions as I know you will have thoughts of me growing up getting a husband and having kids I did for myself but I know that is probably not going to happen and this has been really hard for me, as I know it will be for you but I think you will accept me as me. I have been trying to accept myself for me and now I have so I think I should tell you." I mean I don't know, perhaps they have told you they have these thoughts and made it clear to you that having a gay child would be difficult for them...if they have then I guess keep it, but if they HAVEN'T I'd remove it. Last thing you need is to be telling someone how THEY feel about things. Otherwise it's a really good letter
Some grammatical mistakes that I noticed (changes in bold): "...talk about it to make sure..." "...not leave anything out. I've nearly said it..." "...husband and having kids. I did myself..." "...this is not a choice and if I could..." "...now I amI've told a few of my close friends, both I think you don’t know, one I am/went on holiday with." Sorry, I'm a real stickler on grammar, but it's nice to read things that have good mechanics, especially if it's a difficult topic. If it's hard to read it might make it harder for them to take it. Content-wise I think this is great. There's not really anything I would add or change to it. It definitely sums up about everything. Great letter!
I'd remove the part were you ask them not to "come up with all those opinions" as well. But other than that this is a very heart-felt and honest letter and I hope that your parents will take it well and support you on your further way. Good luck! (I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. )
