Coming out disaster

I agree with everyone pretty much on here.they just may be hsocked.give it a little time and they might coem to their senses and accept u but if not,then just ignore it and live ur life.u cant help who u r and theirs no reason to be ashamed of it.i know it hurts when people arent supportive but hang in their and just remember,their is plenty of people who r going thru this right at this second or have been through it.

 

What your sister said sent chills down my spine. That comment, and your dad's email, do not suggest a short-term re-evaluation of or turnaround in their opinions on gay people, but it's not 100% hopeless. They may be telling you now and in the foreseeable future that you're going to hell for being gay, but they are only two people, and even though they are family in the traditional sense, you do not have to allow them into your life when they are being so hostile to you.

Your family is what you make it to be, and it doesn't have to include your family as society narrowly defines it; your family can include the friends who care deeply about you, for instance, or even the broader LGBT community. Know that there are many, many, many people in the world--like this community, and your mother--who will accept you, embrace you, and fight to make the world a better place for you.

 

Also very happy to hear you have the support of your Mum! Wishing you well also (*hug*)

 

Time. They'll come round, or at least be forced to

 

i'm really sorry to hear about your dad and your sister's reaction. I'm glad to hear that you mother supports you. I cannot believe that you sister said that about you though...

 

A friend of mine had almost the same reaction from his parents when he came out years ago. He went to a straight counselor (picked by the parents), the parents waited in the waiting room for the 3 times he went. After the 3rd time the counselor said to the parents " I think the counseling should continue, but it is you (the parents) that need counseling not he, for there is nothing wrong with him." Now after all these years it is the parents who are actively involved with equalitly issues.

 

Any word from your parents?

 

Good! I'm so glad to hear this - having friendly and accepting places to go rocks, doesn't it?

Good look with the holidays, too. As rough as I'm sure it's going to be, I hope you go home and get to have some kind of regular experience. Sometimes normalcy can be a comfortable thing to fall back on.