Afternoon I want to know whether if I was a latent homosexual would I be able to supress erectile arousal with thoughts, images and videos. My wife kissing me still gets me going. Im at a loss I think im hiding the arousal
I'm confused as to why you want to suppress your arousal. Is it occurring at times/places that would be embarrassing (i.e., someone seeing it) or does it simply bother you that becoming aroused by heterosexual activities (kissing your wife, looking a women in porn, etc.) somehow invalidates your same-sex attractions?
It doesn't bother me as such but it will dispell one of my fairly nasty compulsions to watch porn and measure my arousal. I can't say ive either got aroused to a thought of a naked man unlike images of women. Yet still question myself
See thats the thing I don't think I have same sex attraction. Ive never looked at a guy in that way nor have I considered spending my life with one. Im open to anything but just wanted to know whether arousal was a sure indicator of orientation. Im pretty much fixated on it every waking minute of the day
I think you should focus less on trying to repress arousal and more on trying to explore your feelings and thoughts. The arousal you describe - when it happens? Why do you want to suppress it? When you try to fantasize about women, how do you feel? Are you able to satisfactory fantasize and feel pleasure when thinking about women? And what about men, how do you feel when you try to fantasize about men? If there is a "barrier" in these fantasies, it is worth taking your time and exploring these thoughts, so you can discover if it is a matter of you trying to repress your own feelings or if you really aren't interested in X or Y. Take your time (hours, weeks, months if needed) to think and explore these feelings. This is about you and yourself, you don't need to rush anything. I also recommend that you try exploring these thoughts in your fantasies, instead of porn. Porn may work as an indicator (for instance, if you are interested in heterosexual/homosexual porn) but, in the other hand, it is something designed to be a show, frequently unrealistic and made to please you. Therefore, it isn't always a precise indicator.
At the moment all I feel is anxiety and numbness at any thought. I have yet to have any same sex arousal without physical stimlation and its a slow process. I can still get off to female fantasies where as male isn't exciting and my downstairs only remains half mast if lucky. I.honestly don't know whether im.blocking or not.
Also been diagnosed with anxiety and low mood at the moment so unsure whether im just panicing uneccasarily
Try quitting it. especially if it's interfering with your sex life. There are a lot of sites about porn addiction and it's effects on sex
But I also advise you to be careful about the information you find on the internet. There are many websites (some of them with a considerable number of visitors and followers) that are promoting bullshit like "masturbation is bad for your health" and that you should stop it. If you think porn is being harmful to you, then yes, it is a good idea to stop or reduce the number of times you look at it (especially if you are experiencing things like only being aroused if you masturbate with porn). Just be careful with extreme websites around the internet. And, of course, if this is a possibility for you, talking to a therapist/psychologist may also assist you with these doubts.
Ive not got aroused since to gay thoughts then a male colleague brushed past me and I had a tiny bit of pre ejaculate in my penis as I now check my arousal through this means. Im freaked out. I was straddling my wife before I left and I was leaking too. I don't even find the colleague sexy or want to do anything. What is going on?
Stop watching porn. Let your own mind, your own true feelings guide you. To answer your initial question, yes you can hide arousal, maybe you can suppress arousal, at least temporarily, but if you're doing that frequently, why? Once you answer the "why?", you'll have better information to solve your orientation dilemma?
I don't think im hiding it nor am I trying to hide it. Ive tried multiple times to answer the orientation question now my heads a mess.
Do you take any meds that could be contributing to your penis leaking? Have you had your prostate checked? The leaking issue seems more physiological that a matter of your sexual orientation.
Im on sertraline which im told is given for premature ejaculation. I don't understand how it could be psychological you can't make yourself precum surely? Or are tablets slowing precum creation as I was with my wife the other night and full mast but no fluid straight away
I don't know. I'm not qualified to speak to your medication. But until you rule that possibility out by asking your doctor or pharmacist, maybe fretting about that particular fact can take a backseat to allow you to focus on something else.
