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Can gay men be aroused by lesbian porn?

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  1. Contented

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    At least for me I certainly wouldn’t be turned on. More like grossed out. Porn of any kind just turns me off
     
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    I am aroused by lesbian porn, and gay porn but not straight porn which I find kind of disgusting.
    When I am aroused by lesbian porn it seems more of the idea of it, gay porn i get turned on by the act and wishing i was doing it..
     
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    I curious to know why this is an indicator of sexual orientation ? Is there research about it? Can't fantasies be ways of 'solving' problems or metaphor? I thought, for example, BSDM is often reliving childhood trauma.
     
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    Though there's controversy on this and little if any scientifically robust data, dreams are thought to be unconscious processes that in a way represent themes or issues that the individual is at some level, usually below consciousness, thinking about and processing. So in that way, issues around childhood trauma can arise in dreams.

    I haven't seen any credible data (though it may exist) correlating BDSM behaviors with childhood trauma specifically. There does appear to be some correlation to an individual's capacity to experience emotions; individuals who engage in BDSM are, at least according to some data I've seen, people with a tendency to numb emotions, but that can arise from a number of issues other than childhood trauma.

    I've also not seen any credible data suggesting that fantasies (at least, sexual arousal fantasies) have anything to do with solving problems or metaphor. I'm a little more certain on that one.

    There has been an awful lot of research on unconscious arousal, and in fact, some interesting and clever work that correlated homophobic behaviors with being closeted homosexuals. It's not something people generally question, simply because the data is overwhelming on it, dating all the way back to Freud and documented quite a bit since then. I don't have any citations offhand, but this area is so voluminous in research that pretty much any search on a good academic journal database should pull up a bunch of hits.
     
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    i can't find online but here is a quote from a book by Norman Doige:
    "
    Robert Stoller, M.D., a California psychoanalyst, did
    make important discoveries through visits to S&M and
    B&D (bondage and discipline) establishments in Los
    Angeles. He interviewed people who practiced hardcore
    sadomasochism, which inflicts real pain on the flesh, and
    discovered that masochistic participants had all had
    serious physical illnesses as children and had undergone
    regular, terrifying, painful medical treatment.
    "As a result," writes Stoller, "they had to be confined
    severely and for long periods [in hospitals] without the
    chance to unload their frustration, despair and rage
    openly and appropriately. Hence the perversions." As
    children, they consciously took their pain, their
    inexpressible rage, and reworked it in daydreams,'

    From what I understand, people can have sexual compulsions from childhood traumas..
    "Many traumatized people expose themselves, seemingly compulsively, to situations reminiscent of the original trauma."
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...hy-do-we-repeat-the-past-in-our-relationships
    anxiety based sexual arousal....
     
    #25 out2019, Jul 7, 2019
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