I started realizing attraction to the same sex around 15 when I noticed I kept thinking about women every time I was thinking in a sexual way - I looked some things up online and realized that sexuality is not just sexual - So I then deny I had any feelings for the same sex. However, when I looked back in my past, even though I didn't think about relationships very much until I started questioning and despite the fact I haven't really fallen for someone that much - When I noticed the people I fell for, three of those were women and one or two were males. I realized the bond I had with those women and came to the conclusion that I was demi-romantic when it comes to women - And very sexually attracted to them as well! Now, I have a long distance girlfriend from Canada and she's great <3 As for men, I kind of always realized the romantic and emotional attraction I feel for them since men was always presented as the only option for love growing up because of religion and all. I'm not very sexual with men at all though and I really don't want to have sex with one. The only time I get sexually aroused by men is when I read boy x boy yaoi rated M fanfiction and stuff like that - I consider my sexual attraction to be 90% when it comes to women and 10% when it comes to men. I'd say I'm a little more romantically attracted to men, but not by much - Girl or boy, love from both are amazing to me! So yeah, that's how it came about for me!
For the when the answer is just now, like yesterday or the the day before that. Since I have a deep crush on a girl at school but I still get aroused by men. I am however still confused on how I will reconcile a relationship with a girlfriend or boyfriend while feeling attraction towards the other sex...
i posted about my revelation here; http://emptyclosets.com/forum/lgbt-later-life/133972-self-relivation.html but looking back there were signs in my teen years.
When I was 11, I actually felt that I was a lesbian. A few years later though, I fell in love with a guy, so I realize there was some attraction to males there. Over the years, I've had feelings and attractions for both genders, so I feel pretty confident with the identity of bisexual. I feel I may have a slight preference for women, though.
I'm probably not the best example ever since it wasn't until a few years ago that I "came out" to myself. Up until that point, my story had always been one of not really knowing or wanting to know for sure. In 8th grade, I had a friendship with curiosity benefits with a bisexual guy my age. I dated several girls in high school, and even had sex with one of them (more out of curiosity than anything). I've been a bit asexual as well, with a bit of a uncomfortability with sex. So, I don't have much experience with sexual relationships. I've dated one guy in college, and I've "come out" as gay to close family and friends that I trust. I call myself gay because same sex relationships are my overall preference, but I also see myself as being able to accept that I love someone regardless of gender. Sometimes it's hard because I don't know how to describe my feelings to other people well in terms of my sexuality. But, I am very much glad that I have been, for the most part, open to myself about it. I feel like as long as I'm open to myself about how I feel, everything else will fall nicely into place with it.
^ This. This is similar to me. Except I'm going through some kind of crisis and worried I'm straight/gay right now, but it's almost 100% the same - especially the part about sexual and romantic love for the men/women.
I'm still fully realizing it, I guess. Or at least the extent of it. I was basically asexual until around 19, so that made things very confusing. I know that I got these "obsessions" about certain girls since elementary school. By high school I realized that I just didn't get these crushes over men that the vast majority of my girl peers did, so at that point I figured I'm probably not completely straight. By age 19, as I began to experience some romantic desire, I figured that I am probably bi. It's only now I can say that I'm sure I'm some shade of bi. It took some honest reflection of my true desires and some perspective I didn't have before (in a sense I kinda thought all women found other women hot..... I just can't fathom thinking otherwise, I guess xD ). I'd guess me as a Kinsey 3 now but maybe I'm more of a 4 or even a 5. It's still hard for me to get a grasp of my feelings of that sort.
I only figured it out last year (I'm 16 now). I knew "straight" wasn't right and I needed something to call myself, I needed a specific label. It took months of questioning and confusion, all with the added complication of being in love with a guy, my longtime boyfriend, as well as being demisexual, which I didn't know either. The demi part was easy once I came across the label, I realized it fit and made perfect sense to me. Eventually, after feeling some kind of attraction to several girls at my school (especially my friend who I still have a little crush on >.<), I decided demi pansexual was the best description for me. And man, even though my situation won't allow me to be out to very many people, it feels great to have that weight lifted off my shoulders. Not knowing what to call myself was driving me up the wall.
My first year of college I started questioning my orientation and came to the conclusion that I was straight but wouldn't say no to dating a girl if I had feelings for one. I occasionally had sexual and romantic attraction toward my (straight) friends, which made things very confusing. Two years later, when I fell in love with one of my best friends and we started dating, I started to identify as bisexual. It also occurred to me pretty recently that, in high school, I was intensely attracted to a girl in my class but I'd always wrote it off as wanting to be her best friend.
I had crushes on both girls and boys at a very young age (5-6) and thought it was just how people were. Then I slowly realized that none of my friends had crushes on the same sex (at least outwardly) and started to feel like something was wrong with me. Then I repressed that part of myself for a long time. I'm forty, I came out to my husband at 38 and that was only after he came out as Bi which gave me a safe space to come out as well (how lucky is that?). I knew all along that I was also attracted to women but I kept telling myself that it was admiration not sexual attraction. Once I allowed myself to explore my feelings towards women freely I realized that I am fully attracted to them sexually. It took time to be comfortable with being Bi. The initial shame I must of felt about it when I was a child rose to the surface for a time but after I got over those feelings I felt like I finally fit into my skin and have never been this happy.
I was a late bloomer in terms of crushes; I didn't even like boys until late into middle school. Before I started having crushes on boys, some of my girl friends and I would mildly "experiment" but I never thought much about it after middle school. Then at around 14 is when I can remember my first rush on a girl. I liked one of my really good friends, which really freaked me out and I was super embarrassed and tried to make the feelings go away. I didn't even know what being bisexual was at that point and that really confused me. I continued to hook up with and have relationships with boys all through high school because that was what was expected of me and I was still attracted to them. Fast forward to age 19 and I finally realize that the sporadic crushes on girls all throughout my life actually meant something. As soon as I came to this realization, everything just made sense and I immediately accepted it. I'm now super comfortable with being bisexual and it feels like it has always been a part of me.
Well I'm trying to figure it all out at the moment. I know I like guys, both physically and emotionally, but I'm really not sure when it comes to gals. I could see myself having an emotional relationship with the opposite sex, but then again, I'm not sure if my confusion is some sort of denial. I'm still pretty closeted, and am really not sure what kind of reactions to expect from my family. I'm not comfortable with coming out until I'm sure if I'm gay or bi or whatever it is I am. Then again, I'm in a bad place at the moment and something needs to change.Things need to start getting better, and I think I need to come out some time soon.
I always knew that I like women, but I was in denial about liking guys for the longest time. Usually I like feminine or androgynous people regardless of their gender. First guy i ever realized I liked was the actor that played as Legolas from Lord of the Rings.
