Exactly! And for guys, I've heard that people just dismiss it as a "transitioning stage". That they are really gay but are denying it.
All I know is I've had bisexual women tell me I was gross for being apparently male and liking men. I think amongst teenagers, bisexuality is more accepted among women.
I don't think female bisexuality is more accepted as much as I think It's just more visible. Straight men think bi girls are 'easy', 'slutty', or 'sexy' in a horrible fetishized way. Their attraction to women is seen as their boyfriend's personal property, and not independent of who they are. One bi girl I knew....well, her first time sleeping with someone else was with a woman (Her girlfriend). They broke up and she got a boyfriend later. They slept together. The boyfriend was excited that he was her first, which pissed her off because she believed her girlfriend was her first. This is another example of bi and lesbian misogyny. Lesbians on the other hand think bi girls are gross and undesirable since they've been 'contaminated' by penis. A lot of lesbians act out from anger to phallocentric society, and this makes them distrust bisexuals, makes them think their attraction to men is more 'important'. Now bisexual men have it just as hard. They are erased COMPLETELY and told that they are gay or confused. Gay men don't like dating bi men for the same reason lesbians don't like bi women. "He might decide he's straight and go back to women". Straight women don't like them either and constantly worry that he's gay in denial. Regardless of the gender, bisexuals have it pretty damn tough and have to worry about being accepted by either side.
I've said it before and I'll say it again. If female bisexuals are "more accepted" than male bisexuals, it's because our society gives much less of a shit about women and what we do. Quoted (supposed) biblical objections to homosexual acts all revolve around acts between men, and then people apply the same restrictions to women as an afterthought ("mm sex is absolutely forbidden...oh, yeah, and ff is probably not cool either"). In general, people hold men in high enough regard that they care if they are doing something [that some consider] "immoral" or "unnatural". For women, if it doesn't give them an excuse for titillation ("wow, two women together is so hot") or to pursue their own sexual interests ("she's a slut; she'd do it with anyone"), then they just don't give a shit. But don't confuse that with a greater level of acceptance.
It sends the message that "real lesbians" don't actually exist, and that women are here to please men, first and foremost. The problem with porn and barsexuals is that they perpetuate the idea that THIS is what bisexuality/homosexuality really looks like, and impressionable minds gobble it up, since it caters to what they want. Just like it's a lot easier to swallow the idea that men are either 100% gay or straight, without really exploring male sexuality. It's far too threatening to consider that sexuality exists on a continuum, rather than an us vs them, where no one wants to be "them". Either way, you can see how both are made to accommodate straight male sexuality. Anyway, when I see girls fooling around, it's obvious that they're doing just that - fooling around. An actual queer woman might be uncomfortable in that situation, or like my cousin said, give away that they enjoy it a little "too much". Guys might like the idea of two or more women pleasing them, but once it becomes obvious that they're not interested, the mood shifts, and they find themselves in a situation not much better than that of queer men.
this is what i'm afraid of being Bi, not accepted on all sides, not trusted either. life is hard i get that, been there and i made the damn tee shirt. but there has to be a path that isn't too hard......:tantrum:
