I really have not had more than a few invalid relationships over the years. I am generally not very sociable, either. I do tend to get along with people when given the opportunity and can generally keep the conversation going to some extent. My question is what are some good methods to meet gay guys? I truly hate bars and just don't / have really never drank much. I like the idea of meeting someone special in a hobby situation doing something we both enjoy...but where to start?! I live in the Los Angeles / Santa Monica area so there should be a fair amount at my finger tips. I came out over the month of December. Most everyone was told in about 2 weeks and then the info filtered to around 100 people total. I was pleased with how quickly the news spread and also how everyone was fully and completely positive. The worst part of all now is that I feel a hint of depression, wanting a good boyfriend and solid relationship to at least be in the process of starting. In a lot of ways I feel inexperienced in meeting people but am hopeful since seeking guys will be so much more natural. Some good starting points would be great! At one point I contemplated finding a gay/lesbian friend to be a dating partner because it seems like that would make everything more comfortable for me.