Hello, Kody here. So I know that clothes do not determine/define your gender & whatnot, but I would like to ask something. I am a transgender male (ftm). I really like wearing skirts as they make me feel very comfortable. I still wear things like sweats, pants, shorts, but I love skirts. Dresses are alright, but skirts I'm more comfortable in. Does this still make me a transgender male? I also want to show my "cleavage", but not until after getting top surgery so there are.no breasts to be shown, but it's more like showing off male pectorals. So things like low v-cut shirts, such as v-neck clothes or things like button downs that I'd button fairly low, are something I'd be uncomfortable wearing pre-surgery, but post-surgery would be a different story. I worry that because of this awkward comfort, people will think I'm faking being trans or just flat out wanting attention. That's the exact opposite of who I am/want to do. Does this make me seem fake? Does anyone else experience this? In addition to this, I also want bottom surgeries to be done as my lower half brings me a lot of dysphoria, moreso than my top half (depending on my mood/how hyper-aware I am of one or the other). Still, the same questions apply, thanks. Love, Kody ♡
Kody, it's your human right you wear whatever the f*** you want, whether you identify as male, female, neither or some other combination thereof. It's also your right to do with your body whatever you want. Don't ever listen to anyone who says you can't. And as far as I know there isn't a trans police force saying what is and isn't 'fake'. And hurrah for that! Beth x
Thank you so much. Turns out, I really needed that. I've just felt so fucked up & all over the damn place lately that I started doubting myself, I guess. Thank you, though. I really appreciate it! Love, Kody ♡
So I am also a trans male but I have days where I just really want to dress up and put makeup on and I feel the same thing you do Kody and I am glad someone else feels the same way.
Clothes, make up and other things do not have gender. You can wear whatever you want and don't let other people bring you down for it. You are still transgender. I like make up and cute things and plushies myself, even though wearing dresses makes me uncomfortable, then I still can appreciate beautiful dresses. In the past boys when they borned were dressed in pink instead of girls. There are men who wear dresses and make up and yet are not transgender, so do whatever makes you feel happy.
Thanks! I actually spoke about this with my therapist today! She basically daid the same thing & it helps a lot. I really appreciate the insight (o^∀^o) Love, Kody ♡
Hello Kody Of course you’re not fake. Clothes that are deemed for specific genders are a social construct and a very annoying one at that. You must continue to wear whatever you feel most comfortable in. If that is skirts then so be it! You are FTM and nobody can take that away from you
