I love all the replies. Makes me feel less weird. Specially the comments where you feel like a teen. I thought I was the only one with those feelings. So much so I kept the info to myself. Perhaps the reason for coming out later is all the shame. And those damn rocks, they are heavy. I got my leg stuck crawling out from under my rock. To answer the forum question. Yes there appears to be a few older gays.
It is called "arrested development". When you put your natural "gay" on shelf natural development arrested. When you take it off the shelf you resume development where you left off. Experience can accelerate progress.
I'm early 50's just joined the site to get ideas on how to come out Having come to the conclusion that I can't live my life as a lie anymore Hoping to learn how to come out in a successful why
I'm 56 and decided a few years ago to come out to family and not live a lie. Still in the marital home but enjoy a relationship with my BF who is in a similair situation. Things never seem straight forward.
Adz, Coming Out late for me has been great. I'm 51 and finally accepted the fact I'm Gay. I started Come Out In March. People have been great. There is no way to learn how to Come Out, it's your journey we are here to support your decision to live your life free of the Closet. I can say that people are much more accepting today than when we were kids. Good luck. Always ask questions. The air is much better outside the closet. It does get better.
Five days away from being 60, married and almost completely out of the closet. Every time I come out a bit more, I become more comfortable in my skin.
I am 63 and out to my GF as bisexual. I'm not all that interested in coming out completely to everyone, since they don't have the foggiest idea what the label means. Me neither . . .
61 here...came out a year ago last January...I got the nickname "Cubby" from a friend, because of my "gay" age...Hee, Hee, Hee...Yes, I very much feel like a teenager...there's the desire to make up for lost time and the knowledge that those desires can and need to be tempered...I have to say that I am hopeful that I will find a LTR that culminates in marriage...I'm member of the RGMC, and we've a broad selection of ages involved...it helps me to see people as people rather than a demographic...it is humbling getting advice from a twenty-six year old, however...LOL
I'm 55, only realised that I was gay later in life and came out to my very understanding Wife 2 years ago. Feel like a teenager again after years of depression ... lots of catching up to do. Sale Gay Guy
I'm 53, knew I was attracted to guys a very, very long time ago but couldn't reconcile what I imagined "gay" was with the family life I believed I wanted. I considered coming out but ended up getting married to the woman I thought was the "right one" after a series of devastating events in my family made me feel I had to re-create what I had lost. Then, after a new series of devastating events around age 50-51, I realized I had to be honest about who I was, and came out to my wife. It's been a wild ride. I'm in the final stages of a split from my now ex-wife that has had its ups and downs, but seems like it will end up with us unlikely friends when all is said and done. And I met a special, wonderful guy a few months after I told her, whom I will be living with in a few weeks, for the rest of my life. You're only too old if you THINK you are. Life can be OK; it can be better; it can be wonderful!
49 almost 50, still in the closet. Peaking out every now and then but go back in every time. Wondering when I would be brave enough to do it!
