Am I odd?

I agree with this. I would prefer to go out to a quieter place e.g. picnic in a park, go to a bar or someone's house where me and my friends are able to talk and enjoy ourselves rather than listen/dance (or be deaf) to crap music in a club. I've had plenty of invites from some of my friends to go to a club after uni and I persistently decline. Over here you have to pay to enter these so-called clubs and I refuse to do that. Most of my friends seemed to be baffled by this. I've had some constantly offer to pay for my entry but I have to explain to them every time that it's not the point. I have no problem paying, but I'd rather pay to go somewhere else.

 

Yep, that's it. I went to a club once in my life, and yeah, I paid $10 to get in (and then $5 for a small bottle of water the same that you can get in a case at the grocery store, but that's another story...). I actually *liked* the music, the lights, etc. What I did NOT like were the girls shaking their butt all over the place, acting like drunk fools, the guys asking me to "dance" with them (*shudder*), and the overall trashy, spray-tanned people with gelled-up hair everywhere. Ugh... Never again.

 

Maybe you're just an introvert, like many of us are?
An introvert is the opposite of an extrovert (which it seems to me like your friends are)
An introvert feels content with few friends, cherish their time alone, preffer to be with a group of maximum 3 people, (can be more, depends on the person.) etc etc.

There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. There are fewer introverts than there are extroverts, but that means you are even more special than you think
Make it into something positive, and not negative. And make sure your friends know about your limitations and boundaries.

I am an introverted homosexual lefty I am allergic to 80% of the fruits that exist. I'm too scared to take up driving. I worry too much. I am too fixated on my look. But that's just some of the small imperfections that makes me, me. And to realise your own imperfections and accept them, is something important to know, considering every human on the planet.
Don't worry about your friends. Do what you feel like doing. If they scold you for not partying with them, then they're not your real friends. Drop them. Just remember to do what makes you happy, and be around positivity as much as possible.

 

If people feel they need to get drunk to have a good time then they are clearly in the wrong company. Do what makes you happy. Personally I'm a real homebody. I like to snuggle up with a nice hot cup of tea and a good movie. Yeah, I'm wild. Lol.

 

Alcohol is not that great anyway...Getting drunk reminds me of puking on a beach in Bulgaria at age 17 hehe so I hardly drink,and certainly not for the main purpose of getting smashed.I do like the occasional glass of wine though.

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Basically low tolerance,first experience with alcohol(beer) and too many cigarettes...And mixing drinks is NOT a good idea (smirnoff or brutal fruit or some other sweet alcoholic beverage)when not ''experienced''.And the feeling of being ''drunk'' is so overrated in any case.A caffeine overdose can be more enjoyable hehe.

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Oh no.Groups at school.I was the ''what on earth is up with the weird lonely depressed hyper stressed out'' kid.And the cool thing was: My mixture of qualities was unmatched!I never really made friends in primary school,did not mind that much either(but was picked on),high school(bothered me a little for awhile),last two years of high school(thought that I am so glad that I do not have many friends...look at all these people...and the backstabbing...and groups...all very alien,amusing and perplexing hehe)

 

Your post just made me laugh! Oh man, tell me about it. A 250ml (maybe even less because it was including ice cubes) cranberry juice costs the same as buying 1.5L carton in the grocery. And like you said, I'm also not a fan of what I'm seeing people do to themselves when they're in the club. Now I'm not bashing those club-goers out there. I have friends who enjoys going to clubs and that's perfectly fine. I'm just putting my personal reasons why I choose not to go to clubs.

I can really relate to the OP's question though. I wanted to like going to clubs. Most of my friends enjoy it, but why can't I? I felt weird for not enjoying it. The feeling of being left out was there as well. That's actually the main reason why I tried giving it a go; three times.

The first was during a 'field trip' and everyone wanted to do that for the evening. I didn't want to go but if I didn't, I would be the only one left in the hotel. There was a huge debate in my head, I tell ya. I finally gave up to the coercion of my classmate with the main deciding factor that our two teachers will be there anyway so I can perhaps just hang out with them rather than be alone in the hotel. The second time I went was after three years. This time it was my classmate's birthday and near our graduation time. They've always been inviting me to go clubbing at certain weekends but I always decline. My classmate invited and kept urging me to go and I thought it would be very impolite to decline this time around. Besides, they also pointed that they'll drag me to a club before we graduate anyway. The third and the most recent visit happened last year. This time, no one forced me to go. I was trying to be more social myself but it was also very new to me. It was the first lgbt related event I ever attended. I've never done anything relating to my sexual orientation since I'm not really out yet but that time I thought, ''fuck it, I'll try this shit''.

The experiences wasn't bad. I just didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would. I really tried to like going to clubs but after that last one, I know I can't force it. I prefer socialising in a different environment.

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I thought that was a great post. I tend to have pessimistic attitude in life, I need to think more like you do!

Hey, I'm glad I'm not the only one wild here.

 

A lot of my friends go out on Fridays get very drunk and go back home at 2 am. I am barely exaggerating. And they are not 18 as where I live you can legally drink at 16 and unofficially it is very easy to buy alcohol as soon as you look 16 result is most 14 years old already get drunk...
I don't go out often mainly because my parents want to be good parents and not let me behave this way. Anyway when I do drink I don't get completely sh*t faced and I don't get like crazy hangovers the next morning which is very stupid thing to do. Another reason my parents do not let me go out easily is because I kinda lost their trust (let's just say they caught me with rolling papers and yeah you know what I mean...)
Personally I'm not against going out at all but I think the getting completely drunk out of your mind thing is stupid.

 

You aren't odd at all. I would call it smart.
You're perfect just the way you are.

 

A very close friend of mine loves to host these crazy parties. I don't go to parties much in general but I go to hers because she's my friend. And people drink so much, there are people passed out all over the floor, and three friends and I are hiding in the "sober corner" with a bunch of musical instruments being weird and having fun. It's strangely exhilarating.

So no, I don't think you're weird. I think you're kinda cool