Ok here's the low-down, I have always thought that I was gay but recently I've been having doubts. Maybe I like women after all? And cue about 4 months worth of self-doubt, denial and a voice in my head that asks me every time I see a woman whether I find her attractive or not. I even watched some straight porn recently and found a bit of myself enjoying it. I've had numerous crushes on lots of boys since I stated adolesence and can never recall any feelings for women apart from this one girl, a couple of months ago. Other than that porn I watched I have never really thought about women sexually nor have I fantasised about them. This has left me a bit stuck. I now accept I do have some sort of bisexual feelings but the question is are these feelings "enough" for me to identify as bi. After all I only noticed them recently and have only really been interested in one girl compared to lots of boys. The situation is further complicated by the fact that I've already come out to my mum as gay and telling her I'm now bi might cause her to think it's all a "phase" The question is am I bi enough to be bi? Any thoughts?
"Bi" and "gay" are just simply labels. I believe that everyone has at least some feelings one way or the other (i.e. Kinsey Scale). I believe that identifying oneself as "bi" or "gay" or "straight" etc. relies not only on sexual feeling but also a yearning for emotional attachment as well. Perhaps waiting would be the best choice at this point. Wait to see if you ever have attachments towards other girls before taking any action such as re-coming out to your mom. I hope that helps!
I went through a period like this as well. I was in a long term relationship with my partner but there would be time when I would notice woman and wonder. My thoughts are the same as noah1996, labels are just labels. I usually consider myself bi but my true feeling is that when you meet someone that makes your heart flutter that gender doesn't matter. You love who you love so don't stress out trying to identify yourself. As long as you are happy with you
I think that line says it all right there. We sometimes come across people where we click with on a deep level. We can experience an emotional response and our hearts can be pounding when we are around that person. Does it mean we are attracted to them? Yes and no. We might find something about their personality very appealing. When it comes to sexual orientation though, you need to ask yourself this: Can you picture yourself being sexually intimate with that person? If you can't, then you probably met a girl you really clicked with on a deep, platonic level only. This happens to straight people as well. Ever hear of the term "bromance?" They are totally straight but they enjoy the deep friendships with other guys. They sexually desire women only, but bond better with males on a platonic level. Some gay guys can experience this in the reverse with women as well. Doesn't make you bisexual though.
