Adopting a child rather than having a biological one

THIS IS SOOOO ME!!! Like my thoughts exactly...how can people make more children when there are solo many needing loving homes I don't get it and I really don't get those people who can't love a child which is not biologically theirs I mean why are people so selfish that they want their own child because it must look like them or have their traits geeeez think about something other than yourself.

Anyway yes! to wanting to stay single and raising an adobtive child I've always thought of that but also maybe two parents are also somehow more beneficial?...

 

Kids are better off having two parents. I don't feel like dragging out the statistics or the reasons for why I say this because it's 3am, but it is best for the kid if it has two parents instead of one. Sure, there are plenty of kids who end up fine after being raised by a single parent, but it's not ideal and should not be considered ideal.
On the other hand, if you want to just have like a lifelong room mate or something and still call yourself single and raise kids with them, that's different. But children generally need two parents. Parenting isn't about you, it's about what's best for the kids, and being a single parent on purpose is not what's best for the kids.

 

Now I get what you're saying, but there are people who take pride in their heritage and want to pass it on. It's not that they love their child more or less because of the shared heritage, it's just the pride in getting to pass it on to someone else who you love.

 

But also for those children in orphanages/ children's homes wouldn't anything be better than no one on one love and affection...I'd think they'd really appreciate it don't you?...

 

But I think pride and heritage definitely don't out way giving a forgotten child some hope it's waaay more important to me but I get that that's just me and I should respect other's opinions...

 

TOTALLY!!!...

 

Oh, you're talking about India. That's a little different because the extended family seems to be much more involved. Over here, parents are on their own.
As long as your kid has a lot of emotional, financial support and structure, idk. But over here, because extended family is less involved, it is better to wait until you find someone else to help raise a child to adopt. Partner or room mate. Just two people the kid feels they can depend on. It's healthier.

 

I have a degenerative disease that's genetic and I always planned adopting a toddler or a slightly older child. I don't think I'd love them any less than my own flesh and blood

 

I don't know what those statistics are, but I would certainly challenge them. I would suggest it's more important to look at the quality of parenting, rather than the quantity. Better for a child to have one good parent than two who are useless.

 

I HAVE PCOS TOO!!! wow that sounded so happy:/ also have the blood sugar issues, high cholesterol and blood circulation problems that go with it too.
Wowzers we're the same, and our views on adopting too! Well we kind of have to because in vitro and those stuff are not cheap...

 

@PatrickUK
@Chiroptera

Totally agree on the quality vs. quantity thing I mean it's like saying if the child can't get two parents they should have non at all that's just silly...

 

Ja... I meant in vitro fertilization where an egg and sperm is fertilized in a test tube to make your biological baby...