Even since i came out to my wife a few months ago I have wanted to come out to others, but have been afraid to for one reason or another. The main one being that I would get a negative reaction from them. Night before last I was playing one of my many words with friends games and one is with someone that I have known for many, many years and long ago we used to date. She lives in another town and I wondered how she would react if i came out to her. An idea came to me and I sent her a message as if by mistake like I was talking to someone else that basically said 'Don't even kid about outing me to any of our friends'. I took a deep breath and sent the message followed by a 'Sorry this was not meant for you.'. The thing is that she replied and asked who was thinking of outing me and we began a discussion about my sexuality and it all turned out great. Just wondered if anyone else has 'accidently' outed themselves as a way of coming out to others. I do realized it could have ended with the person really not wanting to know or being homophobic........
No, instead I explore the topic to find their attitude and only if they already demonstrate themselves to be accepting do I come out. IRL I am as out as far as I understand my orientation but out to only a couple of people about my birth assignment.
Just say you were talking about your money laundering operation. Outing yourself that way was a sly but good idea btw.
don72tx.....Well, I've got to admit that I haven't heard of that way of coming out before! But if it works then great! Coming out is rarely an easy thing to do even when you feel sure that the person you're coming out to will be accepting. Finding a new way that works without the big scene that can happen is absolutely wonderful. However, you still need to be prepared for the questions that will come after the acceptance...how do you know for sure? how long have you known? Who have you told? etc. So good for you and keep us updated here on Empty Closets on how this all plays out! .....David
