I hope you are not still feeling disappointment with yourself. What you did was perfectly understandable under the circumstances, especially after a few drinks. How are you feeling???
Hey, thanks for reaching out. No, in fact yesterday I realized I was completely fine with it. It was what I needed at that time. It doesn't change how I feel about Chris or how I feel about myself and how I identify. I simply needed some human contact. But, I thought he and I were on the same page and he asked me to go for a hike on Sunday. So, now, I feel like I need to reiterate where I stand with him.
So I did reiterate to him today that I was not interested. I have a lot going on right now. I am gay. I told him I understood how that's hard to understand considering we were together the other night. And he wrote back a long long text on how he doesn't expect anything out of me, he respects me as a friend, he is in a spot now where he is also going through changes in life, we have great non judgemental conversation, and he just wants to basically get to know me. So, ahhh, I feel better!
Sounds like a good ally. I was going to echo the other above posters but thought "they said it already." But your post shows you knew what to do. I confess I've experienced the same, and tried to be a good guy about it. We wouldn't be getting it on in the first place if I didn't think highly of her.
This is a lot to handle but you are doing really well. There are few possibilities here: he seems to either really care about you, or he likes the idea of non commitment with casual physical intimacy, or you being unattainable due to being gay actually pulls him more towards you. It is great she is honest and open about where she stands with you currently. Nothing is set in stone, but you 100% have enough info to draw appropriate conclusions. Hope you eventually figure all this out.
