I am 37 years old and just beginning to really examine my own sexuality and understand myself. It is exciting and scary. I have never had any kind of physical relationship with a man. How do I know I'm ready to try and what tips do you have in approaching it in the healthiest, safest way?
Take your time, make sure you communicate with whomever you might meet that you are just beginning to explore your same sex attraction. Reach out to LGBTQ groups in your area or a center that can help you navigate your path ahead. It’s not a sprint but rather a marathon!
Start by attending LGBTQ groups and low pressure activities. Never feel pressure to anything. But its still going to probably feel a little scary and you're probably never going to feel 100% ready. Don't try to rush anything.I didn't like my first hook up because I rushed it and wanted to just to finally do something in real life. But even though the guy was just looking for a hook up and it wasn't the best sex, it still felt more right then any sex I ever had with a woman. With my next hook up - I really got to know the guy first and made sure we were compatible. We ended up having a sex a few times and I really enjoyed it.
You will know when your ready. With right guy everything falls into place. You start to feel a comfort level you never experienced with a woman. The attraction and arousal comes naturally. Enjoy the path of sexual discovery you are on.
