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A little chat needed

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Amccurry, Sep 2, 2019.

  1. Amccurry

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    Hey
    So here goes I am a 29 year old man, I have a girlfriend and 3 kids with one on the way but I am also a man who likes to wear womans clothes/underwear mainly thongs and bras, I do like to wear womans pjs and sometimes like to paint my nails

    My girlfriend is ok with this but i have other fantasies and Fetishs such as I love watching gay porn , bi sexaul group porn , lesbians and finally the very over welming "Smoking Fetish" porn of woman in sexy lingerie smoking a cigarette in a very seductive way or while doing a sex act ,

    but here is where it becomes confusing for me I often imagine myself as being one of those woman smoking a cigarette while having sex with a man or giving oral sex to a man but I am not attracted to the way a man looks it is purely a sexaul urge .
    My girlfriend doesnt know about this stuff (Sexaul urges towards sex acts with men) she also isn't too happy if I watch smoking Fetish porn but she has done it herself during sex with me

    I have been with guys a few times over the years but no relationships , i have had anal sex and gave and received oral sex but that's as far as it goes with men! All long term relationships have all been with woman
    One thing me and my girlfriend have done which I love her so much for is role playing we have sex with a strap on while I wore thongs and a bra , id like to go a little further sometimes and wear make up and put on a wig but I am not sure how she would react to this ! surly this is sign that I am a bi sexaul crossdresser or something to that effect??

    I am deeply confused as I am not attracted to a man by his looks as i dont see him as handsome or hot (Just his ass and penis) but I see woman as beautiful and very hot especially if they are good looking and a smoker !it drives me wild !

    I am also scared that once I figure this out and maybe tell my girlfriend about these urges, she may not understand as I have joked about being bisexual/full blown crossdresser before and she didnt seem to take it very well, she seems to only be ok with me wearing womans underwear and the roleplay (Strap On) kinda of play

    Is there anyone else out there with the same feelings/fetishes or similar to mine that could tell me of their experiences and how they have dealt with them

    Thank you
     
  2. Marss

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    Okay! First off you and your wife are pretty kinky in the bedroom, I’m not sure why you wanting to wear women’s clothes or make up would make her upset, she seems open but.. it could be because she doesn’t want to think of you as a female in bed, she might question herself as a straight lady. If it’s an urge that’s driving you crazy then you best talk to her, would an open relationship work? You sound like a bisexual cross dresser\transvestite.
     
  3. cjmiller

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    I agree with Marss. Sounds like you to have a great open relationship in the bedroom. I think you should tell her your fantasy, she may just surprise you.