Hey, I wanted to put this thread in the 'Physical & Sexual Health' category because I think it is a physical/sexual problem. But basically, to sum it up, I think I have a serious obsession with ######, which is a problem seeing as how I am seventeen. I have trouble keeping away from the application and in the past, it has caused problems with me and my mother. I mean, I don't have a great relationship with her in the first place but nonetheless. I have tried to find ways of substituting it with healthy resources such as applying for volunteer positions, talking with friends and being present on TrevorSpace. However, it continues to be a struggle and is a great secret of mine. I am out to my family and friends, but both groups still have a problem with me using ######. What do I do? Thanks, Chai
I would suggest that you look at the underlying issue, which isn't so much the app, as what you are getting from the app. What is it exactly that you are seeking? That could sound like an easy question, but people seek out hookup apps for different reasons. Sometimes it is simply the sexual experience. Other times it is connection and communication. Still others it's the thrill of getting attention. And who you connect with is also an important piece. If it's always older men, that says something. If it's people who are unattractive, that says something. So in short, it's worth exploring the underlying actions here, as that will help you understand the behaviors.
I agree with Chip's comment here. I'd also like to mention that you are still 17, and you are lying by certifying on the app that you are at least 18 years old. If you exchange sexually-explicit pictures on the app to people who are over 18, then you are causing them to commit a felony crime by exchanging "pornography" with a minor. There is a reason these apps are designed for legal adults, and you are not yet a legal adult. For the sake of all the legal adults on the apps, I hope you'll stop using them until you are of legal age.
