This is probably really awkward. I'm only 14 and I call myself lesbian but I'm More of a bisexual who only wants to date women. But I still want to have sex with guys. I know I'm only 14 but I want to have sex with a guy so bad. I masturbate to help with these urges but it's getting to the point where it's not enough. I just want to experience the penetration and stuff. I just really want to do it badly. What do you suggest?
Wait till you're sixteen... I know I'm being blunt but trust me; I know exactly how you feel. Please, please, please don't have underage sex, let alone with guys who probably won't care about you. Only bad things will happen if you do.
Agreed^ Nobody at this age is mature enough, the decision making part of your brain isn't developed. It's very natural to have sexual urges, and masturbation is always helpful to relieve yourself. Porn/Erotic Lterature too if you're into that stuff. I would wait at least till sixteen, maybe even eighteen. However, if you want to go about it, use protection It's a lot better to be safe then end up pregnant at this age. And it's totally possible it could happen to you. And make sure, if you find a guy, that he is trustworthy. From my own experience, many sexually active guys at this age are sleeping with a lot of people, and even if they're not, well, there could be STDs and stuff. So if you're really going to go through with it, do it safe.
I started to have sex at age 13, and we were safe about it, and nothing bad ever happened. I think everyone is different, but I don't see the need to feel guilty about these things, as long as protection is used, you're the same age, and it feels natural. I never understood why we need to feel ashamed about our most basic, sacred biological natures as they unfold. It saddens me to see so much guilt pushed on to sex, as if one must wait for this or that age or occasion to make it morally 'OK'. If you're smart enough to go about it all safely, and it's fun and consensual, why not? I'm 47, and I have not once regretted having sex as a teen, on a blanket spread in the woods; looking back; it was among the most romantic, life-changing things I can recall, and something of great joy and beauty. I've been with my current partner 25 years, and we got married last year, so it didn't have the effect of making me some sex-starved fiend; it was just part of growing up as a human, a member of the animal kingdom coming into their being.
