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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by GhostBi, Jul 27, 2019.

  1. GhostBi

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    Hey everyone! I’m a 25 yo bisexual girl, and I’m struggling so hard with being in-between.
    I’m in a long term relationship with a man, and I feel like my bisexuality is just a squashed topic. Everyone sees it as a phase, people quickly blow past it, no one seems to get it.
    Yes, I’m with a man, no, I’m not straight... I feel like I don’t have any way to express myself!
    Anyone else feeling like this????
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    For me, I can be "straight" for days, weeks, maybe even months. Then the light switch flips in my head and I am attracted to guys as well. Its fricking annoying. :slight_smile: I have found some non sexual ways to express, if that's what your looking for I can share them with you.

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    Yes. Feeling like that all day long. At least if you're out in general, you can remind people when necessary?

    I'm afraid of it being a forever-in-the-middle feeling. At least as long as I'm forced to choose by way of monogamy. I really really want both, though! Do you think poly vs monogamy is another type of orientation, or is it just a choice based upon social norms?

    Good luck!
     
  4. GhostBi

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    I just don’t want to be forever bringing it up, if you get me.

    I don’t think poly/mono is a type of orientation. I think it’s a social construct. I think poly is a honest and open way to explore relationship options. I think that so many people go against poly, who have and will, cheat on their partners when they need something different.

    I think being poly and having it work is a miracle! I love it in theory but can’t see myself not getting jealous!

    I wish you loads of luck if you try it!