What do you find the hardest/most anoying part about being gay?

In my case, "Panroman...asex...what?"

In a more common case, I constantly get annoyed by the "straight is default" ideology aka heteronormativity.

 

Not knowing your future if you're in the closet with strict parents. One day I could be living normally the next day, I could be rejected by everyone I know...

 

For me I'd have to say it can sometimes feel a bit lonely. I'm hoping that'll change once university starts in a few months time though.

Sometimes it can be a bit frustrating having almost no gay friends. I have one but he moved away to live with his partner so I don't really have anyone to relate to.

Finally, as much as my mum is accepting of my sexuality, I don't appreciate her going off telling others that I'm gay when I neither know them or trust them. I can understand her possibly feeling a little 'proud' and tries to show her acceptance but her way makes me feel uncomfortable and puts me at risk.

 

The fact that it's so hard to figure out if you are and to what degree because you've been conditioned your whole life that the world is all straight straight straight and so you must be straight and feel these feelings and like this and that. So by the time you start questioning, you may have even been lying to yourself for years about what's real.

Most straight people don't really have to deal with that when it comes to sexual orientation.

 

"So you're attracted to pans?"

 

Amen

 

I think I find it hard to fit into a culture where being gay is the anomaly, so when I'm in a relationship I find myself trying to fit into being 'the guy' or 'the girl', which is obviously quite unhealthy.

 

All the missed opportunities as I was struggling to accept myself

 

I'm not gay.

Happy days

 

My wife and i have that Problem as well


Id also like to add as I am bisexual that it sucks being married because im stuck with 1 gender and get fantasies and cravings of both


I do love my wife we are happily married but it sucks sometimes

 

Omg this is so true...

 

The fact that even though I'm quite unattractive by heterosexual societal standards, girls still hit on me.

 

For me it's heteronormativity...(is that a word lol?). They don't do it to be mean or bad, but when you're growing up they always say "oh you're gonna have a sexy bombshell wife and genius kids"...actually no, I'm in love with a fat dude :/ .

 

To add to this, I hate it when relatives ask me "So when are you going to get a boyfriend?"

Or when I get comments like:

"If you don't stop growing, no man will date you!"

"I bet you and your future husband with have a ton of cats"

"I bet she has a secret boyfriend, that's why she's always on her computer"

Gah. 1) I know of couples where the girl is taller than the guy, so this is invalid anyway. and 2) I'm always on my computer because computers are awesome.

Also 3) this may happen with my wife if I ever get married, but I haven't really put much thought into whether we would have any pets together or not so idk.