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Could you be friends with someone who strongly opposes Marriage Equality?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by mangotree, Aug 19, 2015.

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Could you be friends with someone who strongly opposes Marriage Equality?

  1. Yes

    30 vote(s)
    25.4%
  2. No

    45 vote(s)
    38.1%
  3. Maybe / Don't know

    12 vote(s)
    10.2%
  4. Depends on the situation

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    14.4%
  5. Depends on how strongly

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    11.9%
  1. Invidia

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    Uuuuh my msg was erased. Summary: there are other reasons to oppose marriage equality than homophobia. That said, mostly, I would not want to be friends with someone who opposes it, no.
     
  2. lettuce

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    I could definitely be friends with someone who opposes marriage equality, but it would probably be a very superficial friendship. Unless they were an exceptional person I wouldn't be able to respect or confide in them.
     
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    It would depend entirely on why, how strong and the actions they are taking as a result. In my opinion you cannot apply such generalisations without being as bad as those you are castigating for it.

    If it's due to pure prejudice then no I could not be. Anymore than I can be friends with a racist of any description. But if that person had a fear of a certain group because of genuine personal experience it would be forgivable. So whilst it's not the same here I shall apply the same general philosophy
     
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    I wouldn't consider them to be my friend. Just someone I know.
     
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    Friends? No. Maybe buddies or acquaintances.
     
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    I could not, be friends with someone I have no respect for, and folks who strongly oppose marriage equality do not have my respect. Thinking that one religion's views are the only ones worthwhile, or worth accepting, is foolish. And thinking that your own morals are the only ones that are right, is egotistical.
     
  7. sekliniak

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    I am friends with a few people that don't seem to understand other form of sexual orientations besides heterosexuality. I think they don't take it seriously and don't want to inform themselves about it. I actually don't know if anyone of my (closer) friends is against Marriage Equality. Some of them are religious but as far as I know, they are pretty tolerant.
    I think I could be friends with someone who is against Marriage Equality. But it depends on how strong. I would also try to change his/her mind and I think there would be a lot of discussions and arguments.
     
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    Why would I want to be friends with someone who thinks my rights are less important than theirs. No, hunty, ain't gonna happen. If someone opposes marriage equality, they better not talk to me at all.
     
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    If it's just marriage equality, yes. If it's anything else (thinking gay shouldn't join the military, thinking they're gross, being mean to LGBT people, misgendering trans people) no.
     
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    So long as they don't bring it up into every other sentence. I could, hell, I am friends with some people that oppose it
     
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    Voted yes.
    Being originally from a country which is extremely traditional and doesn't know about me there is no other way for me. Honestly it's mostly the fear of what they don't know or understand but if you avoid controversial topics you can have really good time.
    Actually some of the best and fun and memorable evenings I had was with anti-lgbt people
     
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    I would maybe stay friends with them, if they were in my face about it then No. But if they just don't like it and I've known them for a long time and their nice people I could stay friends with them as long as they understand on what I think. ^-^
     
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    My parents actually believe that marriage should be left to religious people and EVERYONE else should be given the availability of a civil partnership or something similar. I'm okay with that.
    Since that will never happen, they are also on the supportive side of marriage equality for my sake.

    Very interesting to see everyone's responses.
     
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    Unfortunately no I don't think I could.
     
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    I would stay friends with someone if I found out about their views after we became friends, but I would never become close friends with them, I would always keep them at a certain distance.
     
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    No. For the most part, I can not stand judgemental people and am very picky about my friends. (Which is why I am kind of unpopular at school.) however, if someone did think this way at first but changed their views, I would be their friend.
     
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    Yes I would be and am friends with people that are strongly against marriage equality. My reasoning is that I feel that just because we're friends we don't have to agree on everything. We all have our own opinions. All I ask is that you respect my beliefs and I will respect yours even if I do not hold the same opinion.
     
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    If someone is strongly opposed to marriage equality it tends to suggest a level of belligerence that I would find offensive and unfriendly.
     
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    Yes, I could be. It isn't something that I have too much of an opinion on to completely be against a friendship otherwise.
     
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    I could be friends if they had a legit reason and werent homophobes at the end of the day some gay people oppose it