Falling for someone's personality

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  1. LW995

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    I know the gay community tends to be viewed as pretty shallow, only interested in looks and stuff like that. Just... Have any of you ever fallen in love with a person just because who they are, and the fact wether they are attractive becomes irrelevant (or less important).

    I actually summed it up pretty well when chatting with a friend
    "You know, the kind of people who brighten up your day by simply being themselves, who's personality gives them a certain 'glow'. Just who they are makes them attractive."
     
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    I have! For me potential boyfriend's personality is way more important than his looks. If I fall for your personality, I'd most likely find you cute, anyway.
     
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    I know someone like that, its probably one of the things keeping me going honestly.
     
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    Yeah, know someone like that too.. I've been kinda into him for a few months. Recently I told him he means a lot to me and he's also pretty cute. His reaction was just "really?" and it was the cutest thing c:

    What I love about most people who fit into this category is that they're so ignorant of the fact their personality just makes them radiate attractiveness
     
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    I'm don't know about love, but I have never had a full-on crush on anyone based solely on looks. It's always been about the whole package.

    With my crushes the physical attractiveness grows as I become more captivated by their character.
     
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    Yep, in high school there was a girl in my class who was considered ugly by most people (even by me), but her kindness made me look past her physical faults.

    She never reciprocated my love, but I didn't care. Until she lied to my face and fucked me over. After that point I could see the religious fanatic, lying, ugly bitch who she really was.
     
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    The first guy I fell in love with was because of his personality and he was just fun to be with. Tbh he was also cute, so that was a bonus. We were also close, we could tell each other anything. He's what I would consider the only guy I had a connection with. He is straight but I don't care. He's my best friend.
     
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    I did. I fell in love with a guy for whom I had no attractions whatsoever until we grew close friends and I discovered his many qualities and his wonderful personality. Next minute I was head over-heel for him and was considered the most attractive guy in town for me.