Yeah, I'm pretty bad at just letting go of things. Even the smallest things they do can make me really angry and I can hold a grudge for many years. I feel like it's impossible for me to not have grudges.
Not for long. I had an argument with one of my cousins recently, and I kind of hated her for a while but now I don't care, lol. I get angry easily but I can't stay angry at someone for long.
Yes, I have a good memory and unless someone apologizes I won't let something go until I confront them about it. Unfortunately, once I confront them I just feel worse because they are often taken by surprise, I see it through their eyes and I feel guilty for making them feel bad. I'll often apologize shortly after...
No not really. It is hard to forget some things that occurred in my life I have a great memory but I try my best to forgive and forget. If something is really bothering and nothing was every said but i held a huge grudge about it I will peacefully tell them about it no matter what there reaction is. But overall forgiveness is big to me and I always feel better when I forgive and forget.
I don't really hold grudges but if someone has wronged me in any way what happens is that I start gettting annoyed at that person for every little thing. I don't hold them to what they might have done to me but they just become one of those people. I become fake as hell.
I don't hold grudges to the extent that I feel like I need to gain revenge. If I don't like you or something that you did, I won't really give you the chance to change it and make things right. I'll just go on about my life practically ignoring you. Of course someone will be like, "BUT WHAT ABOUT YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS?" - I don't have close friends that do fucked up shit.
I don't. I live by "forgive and forget". That is, unless you mess with my game consoles. You gonna die.
I hold grudges until they are made better. I am very forgiving, but it's up to you to apologize or make things better, all I really want is to be shown a little respect, and if someone is disrespectful and never shows a sign of being sorry for it or makes it clear they are joking I will write that person off. I like people that treat EVERYONE equally from the start, you can poke fun, but make sure that I am close enough to you to poke fun at before you do, I absolutely hate people that like to insult others and pretend they're just joking, when there is clearly malicious intent involved. So ya, if you cross me, apologize and it'll all be good, I am super forgiving, but if you show no remorse I take that as a sign that you are a shitty person and I will hold the grudge till death. My grudges are usually unknown, I still treat people I don't like with respect, and kindness, so the majority wouldn't know I disliked them. I just really don't like shitty people they make me uncomfortable.
I used to when I was way younger and they would last for years. I don't anymore because I'm too hopeful that people can change for the better.
If someone really irks, me, I just ignore them. I pretend they don't even exist. It works a lot better than being angry for a long period of time for me.
I have a very strict policy. Never hold a grudge unless you have both the willingness and ability to either get even or reliably avoid the person in question. I have a dearth of willingness in almost all circumstances...it doesn't keep me from breaking that rule, but I do at least try to follow it.
Depends on what the person did. If its really bad then yes but if it is small and can be dealt with real quick then no.