Small Victories

It's not really my victory, but my year and the year below me now know of non-binary gender due to an LGBTQ talk today at school.

 

I got to the point where everyone in my family hands me a jar if they can't open it. But if it's so tight it won't budge for anyone, smack a spoon on the lid and that'll help release the air seal.

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I finally tied my very first tie and I don't look like a complete idiot...I hope.

 

The only part of my school uniform that I liked is that I wore a guy's shirt, a unisex jumper and a tie for five years. It gets easier to do, I promise.

 

:lol: I've just refused to learn how to tie one because it annoyed me so much and my friends always have to do it for me. :roflmao:

---------- Post added 15th Jan 2016 at 05:46 PM ----------

Oh yeah also Im out to like two more people which is cool so yay:icon_bigg

 

Not a small victory but anyway... my name and gender marker change is finally official!!
So glad it only took one year and 1300 Euros.:rolle:

 

A small victory, one I'm only just willing to put down only because of the subject surrounding it:

The day Alan Rickman (rest in peace, you brilliant, talented man) died, my dad texted me to see if I was okay (I was definitely not) and he used Connor, the name I've been trying out the past few months. He's changed my name on his phone and everything.

Too bad I've decided that I'm probably going back to Sam (the shortened version of my birth name). Oops...

 

I filled my prescription at a different chemist than usual and she was so confused it had a male name she had to ask someone else for help and ended up totally butchering it to make it feminine.

It was also the first time I presented in a public place by myself and nobody cared! I'm still not ready to go full time just yet but I feel like I'm getting really close ^.^

 

Wore my homemade packer for the first time around the house. I don't feel weird about it, or even super euphoric. I just feel normal. Things are the way they should be.

 

Some practice at the library for the future life of being officially trans, with all the absurdities...
All went normally (if you can call normal to give an ID with such a name, quite the kafkaesk situation) until this point...
Clerk - Does your husband have a library card?
Me (with wtf face) - EXCUSE ME?!
Clerk (with tiny voice)- Eeehm... Yeah, I... I mean if... If he has a library card, then you get a discount... Or some member of the family, I mean...
Me - NO. And if it was the case, then it wouldn't be my man, but MY WIFE.
Clerk (clearly wanting to die) - Okay...
Me (not missing a beat)- And don't you put that first name on the card.
Clerk - We have to put whatever name is on your ID.
Me - Then put only the surname
Clerk didn't dared to ask why. I realized it would have been useless to request my real name there, however there is enough space to put my beloved 'M', with which I sign too.

 

It's odd being finally referred to by the name that I want to be referred to. I have yet to hear anyone use male pronouns but I hope they remember to do so.

I still keep meaning to have a chat with some people about being transgender and I keep expecting the worst, which is why I have yet to talk to them.

 

I can throw together a decent windsor, at least with practice. Just kind of makes me wish I had a job that required ties so I had a reason to show up in a blazer and a tie every day.

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My small victory for the day is that it seems like my social security number FINALLY matches up with my name, after like two weeks of processing. So here's hoping filing taxes isn't gonna be a bitch.

 

I went to a surprise party yesterday and there were so many new people and straight away my friends were referring to me as Connor (which I loved, despite my reservations with my family, so I'm back to being confused and unsure) and making sure people used he pronouns. Everyone was really cool and supportive, asking questions to make sure I was comfortable and things were good for me. One person told me he pegged me as a guy right away because as soon as he heard my name and he saw me, I looked so open and confident in my identity. I also met another trans guy and we got to talking about T. It was such an amazing night.

 

I came out to my best friend not long ago, she's straight and cis.
I asked her what she thought of lgbt people and she replied with this:
"I am inspired by them as they are brave enough to be who they are, even through out ignorant people's abuse
In short they are just like any other human being, why?"
I then told her that I'm transmasculine and asked her not to tell anyone.
"Ok, I won't tell anyone if you don't want me to."
"P.S I'm always here for you"

This was through text, I'm unable to see her irl she's truly amazing.

 

My twin changed my name to Tyler in her phone <3

 

I was in the local drug store and looking at razors and an employee approached me and asked, "Can I help you find anything Ma'am?" I ended up grinning and feeling a bubling happiness the rest of my trip in the store. :icon_bigg

 

It's not really about my gender, but I'm going on an lgbt camping trip this weekend. They asked for my pronouns on the application, so I hopefully won't be misgendered or anything.

 

My GF and I were just looking for Forms and wigs online and she just said to me, "No shoddy shit for my girl." I know that she accepts me and everything, but the fact that she wants me to have the best stuff and doesn't care what it costs. (!) (!):eusa_danc