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How often do you think about your gender?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by QuiteAlright, Jul 2, 2014.

  1. paper planes

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    I think about it a lot, especially on Sundays when I'm expected to dress as a female. I try to distract myself from thinking about my gender though, since I tend to get really upset when I think about it.
     
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    I didn't really used to think about it much, I always knew I was a male, although with some feminine stereotypes - some of the music I listen to/appeals to me is clearly intended for females and then this leads me to think that what if I'm not actually a guy? It's weird, because I'm comfortable with my body and all it's bits.

    Now I find myself thinking about it way too much, constantly judging myself and thinking "do guys do this?" "am i even a guy?" etc etc. It's both tiring and annoying.
     
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    I try to not think about it, or I get sad.
     
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    I think about it a lot!!!!!!!! Being gender fluid I think about it in the morning, mid day and at night :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
  5. Miles16

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    Lately, almost all the time
     
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    Pretty much most of the time yeah :/
     
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    Everyday. I wish I could just start my transition right this moment.
     
  9. NingyoBroken

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    Usually I don't at all, it is the last thing on my mind.

    But on the days I am dysphoric, I think about it quite a lot.
    Also, on any day I avoid looking in a full body mirror without a binder and clothes on. If I catch a glance of my female chest, I must look away quickly as it disgusts me and brings my mood down.
     
  10. RobinHood

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    Never. I'm a robot. I used to be annoyed by people who think I'm a beautiful young woman blah-blah. Now I just smile and ignore them, it works. People are there to bring us down but if you're smart enough, you won't let them affect the way you see yourself.
     
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    I don't really know how to answer this question to be honest. I'm a cis male and I'm completely comfortable with my biological sex and identifying as a man. I dress in male clothes. I'm not very masculine and I'm not very feminine either. But it never actually occurs to me that I'm a guy. It's weird. Like when I do something that's apparently "stereotypically male" and someone says something like "well, it's because you're a guy," internally I'm just like "I am?"

    Maybe my sexuality has something to do with it, but I feel like my genuine self has no gender. I'm just me.

    So to answer your question, I guess I don't really think about my gender at all. It's just sort of there. Now that I think about it, it's like there's male and female versions of myself living inside of me and they each have an important part to play; I can't have one without the other.
     
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    I don't think about it too often, it's always been a part of me and my actions. I usually think about it whenever I get dressed though; formal male clothes feel very "bluh" to me and I sometimes wonder how I'd look in a cute skirt instead, or just look cute in general.

    Other times, it's when I'm around women. I tend to feel more comfortable around women and open up more. However, there's always an awkward force I feel that reminds me I'm male and I tend to keep an arms distance away from any friendly physical contact, for fear that I may come off as being flirtatious or creepy instead.

    And lastly, I want to collect tons of girly stuff! But of course most of that can't happen...
     
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    These days, a lot. I know it was on my mind when I filled out an application to work at a horror attraction in town (missed my interview since I slept in my accident) and with other life issues. It kind of sucks.
     
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    I think about my gender nearly everyday, or 6/7 days a week.
    I'm not even sure what gender I am..
     
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    More often than I should since I'm cis, but it really just upsets me when I listen to someone mention gender in a sexist way or when I'm in a bad mood(i have many bad thoughts while I'm angry or sad). It doesn't influence every single thing I do in my life, but it affects me in the way I dress, how I act in some circunstances and things of the sort.
     
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    Oh I dunno... Every time I go home and change. Every time I want to tell my parents that I'm female. All the time I wish I was born the opposite sex.

    You know... like most of the time.
     
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    usually at least once a day. if i see a cute outfit or shoes, a really nice makeup job. i think i would like to look like that, or wear that when i dress. but mostly i just try to keep on keeping on, and figuring out when i can come out.